How to Discuss Sex Problems With a Partner

Sexual problems are more common than people realize. However, they're very difficult to talk about not only with our doctors but also with our partners. There's a great of fear that our partners won't be able to handle the problems or handle the solutions. However, it is important to know how to discuss any sex problems you may have with your partner.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

1. Schedule the time to sit down and talk. This should be an interruption-free time. It shouldn't be when you both are tired from work or when you just want to go to sleep. It also shouldn't be discussed during another argument or brought up during a time of anger or frustration. You both need to address the sexual problems when you're fairly emotion free.
2. Acknowledge emotions. Say how both of you feel about the sexual problems, but don't blame the other person for them.
3. Understand that the mind and emotions play an important role in sex. Many sexual problems are physiological in nature and simply need to be worked through with talking about views on sex and any past sexual issues.
4. Agree to a course of action or agree to be supportive to work through the sexual problems. Consider making an appointment to see a doctor in case there's a medical reason for sexual problems. Perhaps there's a simple medical solution you haven't considered.
5. Be open to trying new things. Perhaps the solution is something as simple as a new position or a period of relaxation before sex.
6. Consider seeing a counselor or sex therapist that specializes in sexual disorders. Perhaps all the two of you need to do is talk about your sexual problems and find solutions in a safe environment.