How to Live With a Custody Relocation

With divorce being such a widespread event and our society being mobile, custody relocation has become an issue generally relegated by the courts. When the custodial parent decides to move and a court grants the right, it can be hard to handle the custody relocation.

Instructions

Difficulty: Challenging

1. Appeal the court's decision if you truly believe the custody relocation is not in the best interest of the child. You need to be able to prove why the custody relocation would harm or hurt the child. In some states, a custody modification may be granted to keep the child with the non-custodial parent. You can also appeal the decision if you feel the custodial parent wants to move for vindictive reasons.
2. Move to the new location. Sometimes relocation is the best option for the custodial parent. If you can find employment and housing near your child, make the move. You still have to abide by the court's decision as far as custody rights and visitation; however, you remain in close proximity to your child.
3. Maintain a relationship with your child. Ask for photos to be sent on a regular basis. You may even have the custodial parent set up a web camera for communications with your child. Make regular phone calls to talk with your child. Send letters, cards and presents when appropriate.
4. Schedule visits with your child. You may have to travel to pick up or drop off your child, but you should make every effort to have the child during your visitation period. Some people rotate holidays to make this easier. It may be possible for your child to spend the summer with you if they attend school.
5. Get counseling. Custody relocation can feel like you are losing your child. Depression and anger often occur once the child moves. A counselor can help you work through your feelings in a healthy way that allows you to heal. She can also help ensure that you don't take your feelings out on your child or damage your relationship because of the move.

Tips & Warnings

• Talk with an attorney if you feel your parental rights are violated by custody relocation.