How to Maintain Etiquette During a Breakup

Breakup etiquette is sometimes hard to follow. Of course it would be easy to send an email or text message stating that the relationship is over, but it is the wrong way to treat a person. Courtesy requires you to do the right thing.

Difficulty:

Easy

Instructions

1. Speak face to face, if possible. Although breakups are uncomfortable, they require you to be sensitive, and this is best accomplished in person.

2. Make a phone call if you can't meet. Long distance relationships may be ended by phone.

3. Be honest about your reason for ending the relationship without laying blame. Sometimes it is easier to lay the blame on the other person or bring up specific issues. However, letting the other person know that the relationship is not working out for you without bringing up specifics is a better way to go.

4. Allow the other person to ask questions and react to the news. A relationship is made up of two people, and both deserve the right to talk when it is ending. Answer questions honestly and but don't engage in arguments if the conversation becomes too heated.

5. Give each other time to heal. It is hard to stop talking to someone you have been in a relationship with, but it makes the breakup even harder to get over if you continue talking.

Tips & Warnings

• If you want to have a continued, platonic relationship after your breakup, you must give yourself time away from each other before attempting a friendship. Emotions run high during a break up and time away from each other is the only way to eventually have a friendship. Take at least two months off with no or minimial contact.