How to Ask a Coworker for Advice

When you have problems at work such as with a coworker, job performance or a difficult customer it's natural to want to turn to another coworker for advice. He's in the same situation that you are and can offer the best advice, but this has to be done in a delicate manner.

Instructions

1. Listen to the office chatter before you ask a coworker for advice. You need to make sure that your coworker doesn't gossip. She may be your friend but some people just can't help but gossip.

2. Make sure that you can trust your coworker. Gossip isn't the only thing to worry about. Some people may take advantage of your situation, especially if you are in a weakened frame of mind or if he has an opportunity to gain from your problem.

3. Ask your coworker if he has time to talk. Set aside a convenient time for both of you, such as a lunch hour. Don't ask your coworker for advice during the middle of the work day when you are both on the time clock.

4. Inform your coworker of your situation in a matter-of-fact manner. Don't approach your coworker in a whining or complaining demeanor as they may automatically tune out if they don't have that kind of relationship with you.

5. Request specific advice from your coworker. Make sure your request is genuine. People don't want to give advice to someone if they're sure the other person isn't going to consider it.

Tips & Warnings

• Although situations at work can be emotionally straining, avoid crying when talking to your coworker. It can make you appear weak even when you aren't.