How to Discuss Herpes With a Lover

Herpes affects thousands of people around the world, and it is considered a disease that is contracted through sexual contact. You may have had this condition for years, or maybe someone you love has outbreaks. Talking about herpes with your lover can be very difficult. But if you care about this person, then it is the right thing to do. Learn how to discuss herpes with your new lover.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

1. Talk to your doctor about your herpes first. Herpes can be detected by certain symptoms such as blisters, soreness, red bumps and general pain in the groin area. Tell your doctor about every symptoms you feel.
2. Join forums that discuss herpes. Many online support forums are monitored by professionals, so you can feel safe about what you are saying. You only have to access these forums by going on the Internet, so it cuts out the fear of being discovered.
3. Tell your lover before you have any sexual contact. Discuss with your partner how he feels about being sexual with you. Ask your lover if he wants to talk to your doctor with you, so he can feel more secure with your sexual life.
4. Put your feelings down on paper. Some people hold a lot of anger with the person who gave them this disease. Write down your feelings and get it all out. Stress can cause outbreaks, so get your frustration out.
5. Go to a doctor and get medication for your herpes. If you have had medication before, check to see if there is anything new on the market for this condition. Medication will decrease outbreaks, and you can have safe sex with your lover, using a condom.