How to Be the Other Woman in a Man's Life
Being the "other woman" in a man's life is an adrenaline pumping, love inducing and often nightmarish romantic roller coaster. Whether the man is married or just has a girlfriend, dating him is bound to rouse your jealousy, needle your insecurities and, to some extent, play to your sense of romance. Follow these steps to be the other woman in a man's life.
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Be honest from the beginning. It's crucial that as you start dating a married or otherwise spoken-for man that you don't make excuses for yourself or for him and that you stay completely honest. Telling yourself that you know what you're doing, that it will just go on for a short time or that you will get him to love you more than the other woman is putting yourself on a path for disaster. Stay honest with yourself and him from the beginning to avoid an ugly dating situation.
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Accept the situation for what it is. If you somehow get yourself into a situation with a married, engaged or otherwise involved man, you need to start taking things in stride. Having expectations of timing or dedication to you is unreasonable. More than other dating situations, things will happen as they happen when you're the other woman in a man's life.
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Continue to date. Cutting yourself off from the dating scene and from other men will artificially deepen your involvement with the man while leaving you stranded on high ground when the relationship inevitably comes to an end. Keep in mind that the man is not giving up his "extra curricular" romantic situation so there's no reason for you to do so either.
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Let him come to you. In all senses, you should let the married or involved man come to you, rather than you to him. This means that you should not chase him, stalk him or take drastic steps to win him. These things will not work and they will only make the situation worse. The best way to get the man is to let him come to you and to occasionally make yourself unavailable. This will also help prevent you from falling into a romantic downward spiral.
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gether-done
Feb 15, 2008
If this is from personal experience - is the guy paying you or gifting you with money and nice things? I just wanted to know because it being fair play or unfair play I don't see you as an innocent party in any Way. -
gether-done
Feb 15, 2008
If this is from personal experience - is the guy paying you or gifting you with money and nice things? I just wanted to know because it being fair play or unfair play I don't see you as an innocent party in any Way.
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ebruce2
Feb 05, 2008
Good comment, easyrider. It also helps to remember that this person is cheating on someone else with you. Keep this person in that "zone" in your mind no matter what. Even in the event that they suddenly become free of the relationship they are in, NEVER jump in as the next "serious" relationship in their life. Remember, if they will cheat WITH you, they will cheat ON you.
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ebruce2
Feb 05, 2008
Good comment, easyrider. It also helps to remember that this person is cheating on someone else with you. Keep this person in that "zone" in your mind no matter what. Even in the event that they suddenly become free of the relationship they are in, NEVER jump in as the next "serious" relationship in their life. Remember, if they will cheat WITH you, they will cheat ON you.
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easyrider
Jan 03, 2008
And be ready for him to cut it off suddenly. If a married man thinks his wife suspects, or even wants to give the marraige another good try, he'll drop you so fast your head will spin.
