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Step 1
Remember, slashing his tires or poisoning his goldfish will only feel good for a second and could land you in court these days. Also remember that rejection by one person does not make you undesirable as a human being in general. That is especially true when you have been with that person for an extensive period of time. When it's been a long term relationship, it is always tempting to think, he/she found out everything about you and realized you're everything he/she never wanted. Many times it’s much more complicated than that and just because your traits were not compatible with one person does not mean they won’t be with another.
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Step 2
Secondly, don’t dwell. You can recall, analyze, however you should try and save the analyzing until later when your judgment won’t be clouded by emotion. Don’t try and avoid thinking about it all together though. It will eventually come back to haunt you and it will only hurt that much more. In a worse case scenario you will bottle up the emotion for so long that it becomes a part of you and you will have to pay a therapist a lot of money to finally dig out and trace where the issues first began. So save the cash for your retirement and deal with it now.
Try to forgive, I know that sounds utterly painful at the moment it happens to you. However you will realize (eventually) that you both had a part to play in why it all ended and if you don't forgive the bitterness is only really going to hurt you in the end.
Most importantly, don’t do anything rash. This goes for the ladies especially. I know, it seems so logical to sleep with your ex or spend your life savings on clothing when your upset, but so does running through the streets naked seem like a good idea when your intoxicated in some form or another. -
Step 3
It is vital to get out the emotion though. Luckily there are safer alternatives in order to do that. Such as taking up a new hobby, join a new class, volunteer, play an instrument. I suggest drums. You don’t even have to be good at it. It’s not like you’re going on tour. It’s just to get out your angst. Exercise, the best options are boxing or yoga. Both have a calming effect plus you get the added bonus of a stellar new body that if you do happen to run into your ex, they'll be very sorry they broke it off with you. Join a sport or anything that involves a group of people with a common goal. Watch Oprah, she is just a pillar of wisdom and strength and an icon of what you can be if you rise above your obstacles. Dr Phil is another good option; if it doesn’t make you feel better at least you can see that there are people with worse problems out there than you. Plus it's fun to watch him tell people to "smarten up."
That is about all the advice I have to give on this subject but I believe it’s enough. Now, don’t forget to keep in contact with friends and family that love you and make a list of all the things that make you fabulous because frankly, you are.
