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Step 1
1. Most importantly, always except them, whether they are good, bad, sad, rad or wear way too much plaid. They are your children and if they do not get the feeling of unconditional acceptance and love from their own parents it will royally screw around with their later years and you will begin to see some odd behaviours at an early age, while they are feeling very confused and frustrated. If children know in their heart that know matter what they do, their parents will love and accept them, it will make all the difference in the world and give them the freedom to become whomever they would like to be. I know that may sound scary but the rest of these steps will make sure that the person still becomes someone you would be proud to call your offspring.
2. Point out their good qualities and always celebrate even the smallest of accomplishments.
3. Take time to really get to know and spend quality time with them. Treat them like you would treat your best friend only ten times better.
4. Find out why they love what they love and hate what they hate -
Step 2
5. Tell them that it is okay to fail. THIS IS VITAL. If children are not encouraged despite their shortcomings they will fear failure instead of seeing it as an experience to learn from. If they grow up to fear failure and they do experience it, they will feel so much guilt, pressure and depression that they may never recover and it will paralyse them from ever pursuing anything of significance ever again.
6. Invite their friends over and treat them like family. Even if they have bad friends, surrounding them with a positive and loving environment like your family, will make that child become influenced by you, instead of him influencing your little one.
7. Do not tell them to be afraid to show emotion. Allow them to cry and laugh and feel all the things imbetween. Supressing the natural reactions to life will only cause them to bottle emotions in, thus leading to either emotional indifference or emotional confusion.
8. Tell them that they can always talk to you about anything.... And mean it. Too many parents say this and than the minute their child wants to talk about the birds and the bees, the parents freak out or just avoid the subject by sugar coating issues. -
Step 3
9. Always celebrate their birthdays. It does not have to be extravagant, just let them know that you will always celebrate the day that they were born into this earth and came into your livesvbbbbbbb.
10. Teach them basic wisdom. Tell them the old little poems and words of advise that were passed down to you such as: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. These little treasures may become part of the solid ground in which they place their feet when the storms come and they will come.
11. Take care of them, but do not baby them.
12. Enroll them in something that they will love. A group of some sort. People and especially children need to feel out different things to see where they feel most comfortable and they need to feel a sense of belonging or ect.... Then they may be susceptible to joining a group of negative influence. It does not have to cost you anything, you can even start the group yourself at your home, invite their friends over for whatever you thing would be of interest to your child. Suggestions, poetry reading and writing, music, arts and crafts, movie night, baking or cooking, singing and ectera.
13. Encourage your children to try new things, explore their world, be curious and to never be afraid to take on a challenge.
