Steps are hard and complicated, especially if you do not have a good relationship with your children's father. If you do not that is your first step want to know how?
Step2
First of all you have to realize it always takes 2 to have a relationship. You are divorced for a reason, just make sure that reason does not continue after the divorce otherwise why did you get a divorce in the first place.
Step3
If this reason has continued beyond the divorce there has to be some stubborness going on. Let it go. The divorce is over and done why do you want to continue to live the married life?
Step4
Talking in any relationship is the key. Once you have let the reasons you divorced go, you can now talk about what you could not in the first place. A relationship. No you do not have to go back to marriage.
Step5
Talk to him and tell him you want to quit being argumentive for the children's sake. If he is the culprit then you may have to use drastic measures as an option.
Step6
Patience something a lot of women do not use but are supplied with in abundance when you are a mother.
Step7
Persistence of not letting him involve you in an argument. Completely ignore the impulse to argue with him. This is not only detrimental to you it involves your children also.
Step8
Finally cooperation. Cooperate with each other even if it makes you cringe. Remember your children, they are the victims in a divorce as you are. It does not matter why you divorced anymore. What matters is the well being of your children.
on 7/13/2008
If parents can maintain friendship or at least being civil to one another, it is so helpful to the self-esteem of a child. Wonderful article.
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Desula said
on 7/13/2008 If parents can maintain friendship or at least being civil to one another, it is so helpful to the self-esteem of a child. Wonderful article.
vikki9 said
on 7/11/2008 Good article. It's so important to demonstrate to our children how to respectfully interact with each other. Forgiveness to also key.
3-Point said
on 7/10/2008 Excellent advice. Thanks
meemee67 said
on 7/10/2008 good advice
Hapworth said
on 7/9/2008 This is so important because of the children.