How to Be More Vulnerable in Relationships

Sharing intimate parts of our personalities can be difficult. We put on a mask for the world to see so that our true feelings and emotions are safely protected. This keeps us from feeling vulnerable--and taking the risk of rejection. Even though this protective shell helps when dealing with the outside world, those closest to us deserve to see us as we truly are. Learn to show vulnerability and offer a real glimpse of your true self.

Instructions

1. Share your feelings with those close to you. If you can learn to verbalize your inner emotions, others have the opportunity to truly know you. It also provides a way to feel validated. When you share intimate aspects of yourself you learn that you're not alone and not that different for anyone else.

2. Retrain your thinking. Most people feel that being vulnerable is a negative trait. We feel exposed, weak. Instead, look at those you admire most. Do they share deep aspects of themselves? Appear open? If you can re-evaluate the way you feel about vulnerability it could help you to open up more.

3. Connect with others on a deeper level. Sharing and showing vulnerability isn't something you want to do with acquaintances or co-workers. It's a trait you'll want to incorporate into intimate relationships. Practice on your dog if you must, but work toward learning to expose a deeper aspect of your personality to those you love.

4. Write a blog, join an online support group, visit a counselor or get a life coach--just start sharing. Practice opening up to others and it will get easier. Then you can reap the benefits of closer, deeper relationships.