How to Tell Your Child the Truth

Some people fear telling their children the truth because they believe they will think less of them, but this isn’t the case. Children appreciate honesty, and even when it hurts they are grateful once the pain has eased. Another reason some parents won’t tell their children the truth is because they don’t want them to make the same mistakes. Children are far from stupid and if you communicate with them, put in plain words why you did it (even if the reason was stupidity) and explain why they shouldn’t, chances are they will listen to your advice.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

1. Never lie. If you do you will lose her trust.
2. Have an open and honest discussion followed by the reasons you wish you hadn’t done drugs (or why you’re glad you did) and all the reasons he shouldn’t do them.
3. Consider that if she asks a question and you don’t know the answer, say so. It’s OK for her to know you aren’t the all knowing one. Actually, realizing this is another step in growing as a person, and she will not only appreciate your honesty, but will also feel even more comfortable with talking to you.
4. Let it be a learning lesson for him by using yourself as an example by comparing it to something you did in the past. In doing this he will better comprehend and consider the facts given him.
5. Understand she will experiment. As a matter of fact, expect it. Very few kids go through life without at least trying alcohol and or drugs. When it happens, don’t scream, cry and point your finger. Explain why she shouldn’t do it, what the consequences are or could be, how much trouble she is or could be in and follow up with a discussion on why she did it.
6. Remember he loves you, imperfections and all. Love him back the same way.