How to Tell Spouse About Positive HIV AIDS Test Results

HIV or human immunodeficiency virus is the sexually transmitted virus that causes aids. When the HIV results are positive, it can be difficult to deal with the stress, anger and worry over how the share the news with your spouse. Try using these steps a guide to help you discuss positive HIV results with your spouse.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

1. Arrange a sit down. Tell your spouse you have some important news to share with them. In a private location gently break the news that you have tested positive for HIV. Be respectful and listen to their anger and disbelief.
2. Explain your results. It's important to be honest about how you contracted HIV. Confess to intravenous drug use, having sex outside the marriage or because of your relationship with them.
3. Tell them to get tested. Let your spouse know that HIV is passed between sexual partners. Discuss testing options with them. Testing can be done as early as one month after exposure and can be administered by health clinics and physicians.
4. Discuss methods of staying safe. Speak with a health care professional with your spouse to determine how to remain safe when having sex, especially important should your spouse test negative. Find out about any precautions that should be taken to protect the health of your family.
5. Get counseling. Dealing with HIV could cause strain with your spouse and worry over the possibility of living with a terminal illness. When the results are a consequence of infidelity or drug use, therapy may offer a safe environment for your spouse to discuss their feelings.

Tips & Warnings

• Both you and your spouse should receive AIDS counseling before and after getting tested.
• A positive HIV test could lead to AIDS. There is no cure for AIDS and no vaccine exists to prevent HIV infection. AIDS is a life threatening illness that should be taken seriously.
• To prevent passing HIV on to others all high risk behaviors should be stopped immediately, including drug use and sex with multiple partners.
• Condoms can't completely prevent the chances of contacting HIV, for best results speak to your doctor.