How to Support Your Spouse Through Their Transition From Military to Civilian Life

Whether you have lived as a military spouse for one year or 30, the transition from military life to life as a civilian can be difficult. Your spouse often will have many conflicting emotions. If they do not really wish to leave the military, this can be a particularly trying time. Preparing for the uncertainty and emotions can make this transition go smoothly. Read on to learn how to support your spouse through their transition from military to civilian life.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

1. Decide what your goals are as a family. Discuss what is most important to both you and your spouse. Even if you don’t completely agree with your spouse, there will be no surprises if you openly discuss your feelings. A couple can’t address any issues that are not out in the open.
2. Take the time to learn about the process of military transition. Each branch of the service may handle the steps differently, but service members and their families are given opportunities to learn about services and benefits they are eligible to receive. If spouses understand these steps, families can maximize the benefits and services they receive. Utilize transition assistance programs available.
3. Listen to your spouses concerns and worries. The military provides some stability for families. Many service members leaving the military have concerns about finances, insurance and housing. Listening costs nothing and allows your spouse to voice anxiety of which you may not be aware.
4. Recognize when the transition has become too stressful. Seek support if you or any member of your family seems overwhelmed, depressed or overly anxious. This transition is a major life change and can be one of the most difficult times in a marriage. Together a couple can move through this transition successfully.

Tips & Warnings

• Talk to families that have transitioned from military life to civilian life to get pointers on transitioning.
• Don't wait until a few weeks before separation to start preparing for civilian life.
• Don't assume you know how your spouse views the future.

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