How to Deal With An Ex In Your Life Again

Some exes stay out of our lives and there are ones that come back. But do the ex really want to rekindle the romance or are you just a roll in the hay and hooking up for old times sake?

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

1. Does the ex loves you or does he not? That is the age old question. Be honest and ask your ex what is his intention of coming back. Is helonely? Didn't find a suitable partner? Bored or want someone to become intimate with? Whatever his reason you must look after yourself first and guard your feelings from them. If they have enough decency to be outright honest about their returning for all the wrong reasons, show him the door, lock it and never let them back in.
2. But I have changed for the better. That is what we all like to hear--those wonderful words that a person has changed and want to share their life with you. If the ex gets way too sweet with her words and goes on about not only they are sorry but you were the best person ever in her life, become cautious. Wasn't it not too long ago the person has said you are not meant for her and she is leaving you for fill in the blank reasons? If the breakup was less than six months have doubts that someone can change that significantly in a small amount of time. However if things ended on good terms and the ex genuinely realized what a terrible she'd made, give the ex a chance. Maybe the person is honest and serious enough to want the relationship to work out in the long run this time around.
3. Remember an ex is an ex for a reason. Sometimes there is no use to go back in the past with someone who hurt you in every unimaginable way. People fear the unknown and is comfortable staying with someone that is familiar--even if that familiar is full of crap. It is not good to take back anyone that screwed you over big time and if you do, it is only a matter of time you will be heartbroken again. It may feel good to be together for at least a month but chances are the ex will revert back to their old ways, reminding you why they are an ex in the first place.

Tips & Warnings

• If you want to stay away from an ex forever, resist the temptation of taking their calls or emails. Understand they had one chance to make things right and found a way to blew it up. Become the 'one who got away' and let them live with the regret.
• Replace the ex with someone new. Think of the new person as 'refreshing' in your life and possibly a potential partner. There are plenty of wonderful people that will treat with respect and love so don't dismiss people over someone who could not give you what you needed.
• Do not take back a cheater. If they do it once, they'll do it again as you set up a continuing cycle of hurt, pain and anger.
• Never jump right into an old relationship without resolving the issue first. Your actions will prove you did not learn a thing from the breakup and this could possibly lead the ex to believe they can enter in and out of your life as they please. Let them know there are new rules to the relationship and if they want to play by the old they could look elsewhere. Be direct and strong about it and they will actually respect you for it.