How to be friends with Blue personality types

Do you have friends that express their feelings for you and others freely? Their warmth, empathetic listening, and desire for harmony make them magnetically attract people. These friends always seem to be attracting other people through their good nature and deep sentiments. After a period of time, you may start to see these friends in a different light. The nurturing and constant emphasis on feelings could start to smother you. Their desire for communication captured your interest and imagination for ble wonderful conversations, but over time, these same traits could wear you out. The personality of the friend described above can be classified as a Blue in the True Colors personality assessment. This personality is one of four distinct types and represents just over 10% of the U.S. adult population. This article will give some hints on how to positively enhance your friendship with a Blue personality type.

Instructions

Difficulty: Easy

Things You’ll Need:

• Open mind

1. Accept personality diversity. Everyone has a unique personality but one that falls into a spectrum of four specific personality types. We generally express and process information in a dominant personality type but have aspects of the other three types rounding out our personality. With this knowledge, you will begin to see the paler aspects of your personality type in the brighter aspects of others’ personalities. Bottom Line: accept that people are different and they don’t have to act, think, or talk like you.
2. Find commonality. For example, if you are a blue, you become very enthusiastic about something that tickles your fancy within you like a passion for connecting with people. Oranges crave stimulation from outside sources detected by the senses. Beautiful pictures, people, smells, food, and anything that gives them pleasure and feels good is highly sought after. When senses are stimulated, they become very excitable. The difference between an Orange’s excitement about something and a Blue’s enthusiasm for the same thing is sometimes hard to detect and serves as a common bond between these two Color types.
3. Clarify what gives you joy, what you value, and what you need. For example, a Gold values working hard and getting the job done before playing. A Blue loves cooperation, teamwork, and harmony. Invite the Blue to help you get the task done faster by appealing to their desire of being of service to others and working together as a team. This is irresistible to the Blues and will help your Gold from feeling out of esteem for having to do all the work without any play.
4. Remember, don't forget to tell mehow much you love me...every day Ask what gives the Blue joy, what they value, and what they need. Sometimes we think that Blues always love romance and expressing their feelings but remember that they are a spectrum of the other three Colors too. By asking them these questions, you will pin point with greater accuracy areas where you can find greater commonality and improved communication. Be prepared for the conversation to go both ways because of the Blue desire to listen as well as to be heard. Once you have gathered the data points, you now have better points of connection improving your communication and your friendship.

Tips & Warnings

• Blues have a knack for attracting people towards them because of their warmth, authentic desire to know you, and desire to communicate.
• The Blues openness to others sometimes allows them to be pushovers and overly influenced by others. This stems from their disdain for conflict and need for harmony.
• Blue friends have problems maintaining long distance relationships at times because of the need to connect more often on a deeper basis. Since they value friendship, people, and feelings, they need to feel that they are in your thoughts and you can never tell them you love them and appreciate them enough.
• Cross a Blue or lie to them and they will viciously attack you. Once you have tapped into the depth of their feelings and betray them, forgiveness will be long, arduous road for the Blue to take.