How to raise a Blue's self esteem

Wouldn’t it be nice to wake up each day and have a totally positive outlook? You greet your family at the breakfast table and they actually greet you back. At work, your co-workers build each other up and applaud each others’ accomplishments. When you get home, your spouse lovingly greats you and you listen patiently as your spouse details the day’s events and eagerly awaits while you share your day’s events. In this scenario, everyone is operating on all cylinders and is in “Esteem.” Esteem is how you see yourself as in “self-esteem.” Depending on your personality, there are hints when you are “Out of Esteem.” This article will help you identify a Blue personality type, one of the four True Colors personality types, that is “Out of Esteem” and how to get the Blue type back in esteem. By identifying “Out of Esteem” traits and subsequently taking appropriate action to bring those traits into congruence, you will raise your “Self-Esteem.” Just imagine a world where people focused more on raising each others’ self esteem and just how life giving and rewarding it would be.

Instructions

Difficulty: Easy

Things You’ll Need:

• Clear mind
• True Colors Personality Test

1. Blues are also creative and artistic Identify Blue personality traits that demonstrate they are in esteem like the following:
   Communicative
   Team oriented
   Enthusiastic
   Cooperative
   Encourages others
2. Identify Blue personality traits that demonstrate when they are out of esteem:
   Attention getting
   Crying
   Fantasizes excessively
   Passive, resistant
   Expresses emotions by yelling and screaming
3. Determine “what is the cause of the out of esteem behavior?” Ask questions or observe if their joys, values, and needs are being met (see article on how to spot an Orange, Green, Blue, and Gold). For example, if a Blue feels their feelings are not being appreciated, then make an attempt to just listen. If you have it in you, empathize with them and you’ll win them over.
4. Determine if any of their stresses are being activated (see article on how to spot an Orange, Green, Blue, and Gold). For example, you set a staff meeting. Since you know Blues like team work, solicit their help in developing the agenda when you send it out. At the staff meeting, the agenda is followed unless there is a need for special attention for themselves or others. In fact, the need to communicate and express how they feel about a subject could cause the Blues to miss the agenda’s timelines.

Tips & Warnings

• Seek to determine the blues specific joys, values, and needs. This requires exercising patience and excellent listening skills because Blues want to talk and express how they feel. Just listen!
• If a Blue is out of esteem, they can viciously strike back at those who crossed them or let them down.