How to raise a Gold's self esteem

Wouldn’t it be nice to wake up each day and have a totally positive outlook? You greet your family at the breakfast table and they actually greet you back. At work, your co-workers build each other up and applaud each others’ accomplishments. When you get home, your spouse lovingly greats you and you listen patiently as your spouse details the day’s events and eagerly awaits you to share your day. In this scenario, everyone is operating on all cylinders and is in “Esteem.” Esteem is how you see yourself as in “self-esteem.” Depending on your personality, there are hints when you are “Out of Esteem.” This article will help you identify a Gold personality type, one of the four True Colors personality types, that is “Out of Esteem” and how to get the Gold type back in esteem. By identifying “Out of Esteem” traits and subsequently taking appropriate action to bring those traits into congruence, you will raise your “Self-Esteem” and the esteem of others. Just imagine a world where people focused more on raising each others’ self esteem and just how life giving and rewarding it would be.

Instructions

Difficulty: Easy

Things You’ll Need:

• Clear mind
• True Colors Personality Test

1. Structed Identify Gold personality traits that demonstrate they are in esteem like the following:
   Task focused
   Structured
   Cares for body and health
   Cooperative and follow rules
   Dependable
   Respects authority
2. Identify Gold personality traits that demonstrate when they are out of esteem:
   Complains and acts with self-pity
   Exhibits excessive worry and anxiety
   Thinks themselves into pain or disease
   Authoritarian
   Negatively judges self and others
3. Determine “what is the cause of the out of esteem behavior?” Ask questions or observe if their joys, values, and needs are being met (see article on how to spot an Orange, Green, Blue, and Gold). For example, if Gold feels out of control, find ways to help them be in control of something. Keep building on successes and see their esteem rise.
4. Determine if any of their stresses are being activated (see article on how to spot an Orange, Green, Blue, and Gold). For example, you set a staff meeting. Since you know Golds value structure and their time, would it not be appropriate to send an agenda out as you set the meeting. This will allow input into refining the agenda and it will help prepare the Golds for the meeting. At the staff meeting, FOLLOW THE AGENDA and it you can’t, ask for permission to deviate or set up another meeting.

Tips & Warnings

• Seek to determine the Golds specific joys, values, and needs. This requires exercising patience and excellent listening skills.
• If a Gold is out of esteem and you suspect their out of esteem behavior is more series than a passing moment, consider referring to professional help. Out of esteem behavior could lead to more serious issues that a professional is more equipped to handle.