How to Tell If Your Husband Is Gay

One of the hardest things for a wife is to realize her husband is cheating on her. Perhaps even worse is if he is cheating on her with someone of his same sex. Are you skeptical about your husband's sexuality?

Difficulty: Challenging

Instructions

1. Study your husband's sexual habits, everyday hobbies and feelings. Write what you find in your journal.

2. Check what you have written down with the following checklist:
   
   Does your husband think you are a nymphomaniac or "pushy and aggressive" because you want sex twice a week?
   
   Has sexual activity steeply declined within the first few years of marriage?
   
   Are you always more sexually aggressive than your husband?
   
   Is your husband turned off by the thought of touching your vaginal area or performing oral sex on you?
   
   Is his best friend gay?
   
   Does he hang out in gay bars?
   
   Does he enjoy watching gay porn movies and surfing gay porn websites?
   Is he excessively homophobic, mocking and imitating other gay men?
   
   Does he brag about gay men complimenting him on his looks?

3. Communicate with your husband your findings. There are no definite 100 percent ways to find out if your husband is homosexual unless you catch him with another man or he tells you. Before you go sneaking around, show him what you have observed and ask him about it. If your fears are proven to be true decide what to do next in your marriage.

4. Seek support and help from a counselor, family and friends. If you desire to save your marriage, seek this support with your husband. If you desire to leave him, leave him and continue to seek support for yourself.

[iroehm]

on 9/24/2009 My husband has sex with me, but not alot. He hates doing oral, and seems very sensitive. He also arches his back in the shower, is that normal? he stands really fem in the shower. when i try to kid around with him about him being to fem he gets mad. now i dont know what to do or say.

[AngelKitty1441]

on 7/1/2009 Great article.