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How to Ask Someone on a Date

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Ask Someone on a Date
Ask Someone on a Date

Whether the other person is interested or not, you'll never know unless you ask. So gather up all your courage and follow these steps.

Difficulty: Easy
Instructions

Things You'll Need:

  1. Step 1

    Introduce yourself to that person you've been admiring from afar.

  2. Step 2

    Get the person's telephone number, or tell a common friend you would like the number.

  3. Step 3

    Call. Choose a time that is not intrusive. Call when you are comfortable doing so, regardless of what your friends might say about the right time to call.

  4. Step 4

    Reintroduce yourself once you're on the phone by saying something like, "Hey, it's Shirley. We met at the drag strip."

  5. Step 5

    Using as little pretense as possible (ideally none), ask the person if he or she would like to get together for a cup of coffee or do something similarly casual. If you are politely refused, take the hint and get off the phone.

  6. Step 6

    Meet casually for a brief time - half an hour or so. If that goes well, suggest a more formal date, such as lunch.

  7. Step 7

    Go on the more formal date.

Tips & Warnings
  • Besides getting a cup of coffee, some of the best ideas for a date are the things you love to do the most, such as going to an art museum or getting muddy on a mountain bike ride. This gives the other person a chance to get to know more about your personality.
  • Humor is often the best remedy for rejection. Congratulate yourself for trying and move on.
  • Going to see a movie is not a very good idea for a date; it shows a lack of creativity and does not allow the two of you to spend much time talking.

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on 8/6/2009 This may also help.
http://www.ehow.com/how_5252407_understand-black-woman.html

tomandjami said

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on 8/3/2009 Ok not to be rude but the first time I go on a date ( i am married now) but I would never EVER want to go mountain bike riding or anything I consider a workout or exercise, not that I don't enjoy it. I think looking your best and giving a good first impression is paramount, and shame on you for knocking movies sometimes you can bond over a favorite interest and it always gives you something to discuss if you plan it so that you have dinner afterwards.

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on 7/27/2009 i wish i culd just as sumone on a date, but i need help telling the person i like them..

Coach4U said

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on 7/23/2009 Oh to be 16 again, no thanks. How to ask someone on a date is some good advice.

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on 6/24/2009 Taking the initiative helps.

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