How to Discipline Teens with Restriction and Love

Discipline Teens with Restriction and Love

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Having difficulty with your teen? Set boundaries, gain their trust earn their love. Here are a few steps to help you help your teen, and keep your family happy.

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Instructions

Difficulty: Challenging

Step1

Children learn by example. If you are not setting the example, don’t try to discipline the action.

Step2

Love your children, no matter what they do. Tell them often that you love them, and that you are doing this for their own good (no matter the age, they all understand, and it becomes routine for you to tell them).

Step3

Hug your teen, everyone needs hugs, especially teenagers who don’t know which direction they are headed, who are struggling with finding themselves during this crazy time in their lives. Help direct them to the place they know they can get help when they need it: that place is YOU! If they know they can talk to you, be open and honest, you should have minimal discipline issues.

Step4

If your Teen has crossed boundaries, he/she needs to know what was crossed, and needs to serve the sentence for the crossing. If grades are low, the television and computer rights are withdrawn; if curfew is broken, so are playing rights suspended. The punishment fits the crime, so to speak.

Step5

Always talk to your teen! Know what is happening in their daily lives, and you will have better control of the boundaries they are keeping. They want you to talk to them. Teenagers may not always express themselves openly, but if you are the first to start the conversation, they are more likely to talk to you first when they need to.

Tips & Warnings

We all have different relationships with each other in different families. Remember, hugs and love daily, and we’ll all have something in common!!

Comments

BlueSkies said

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on 3/24/2008 I don't believe I ever said to make your kids something they are not...I'm simply saying that LOVE is the best thing you can teach them...everyone needs it...whether they think they do or not..it will keep them much happier if they grow up loving...not hating.

CaseyColors said

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on 3/6/2008 um. hahahaha. i dont need hugs. i need space. i need my parents to understand that i am moving from them. i dont want to be tied down to family s***. The more you constrict your teens the more they are going to want to push away from you. just let your teens find them selves dont try to make them someone or something they are not.

Marythemom said

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on 1/21/2008 We believe teens need lots of hugs! I tell my kids they need one hug per year of age. That means my 14 year old son needs 14 hugs daily. I think people hug the child less as they get older and this is the opposite of what they need!
Mary
mom to D(14)almost-adopted and needs extra hugs, C(12) almost-adopted and needs extra hugs, K(11) and T(8)

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