How to Discipline Children Without Spanking

Discipline is a way of helping your kids in the right direction, but if you use your hands to impose the way you discipline them that will become an abuse either with or without injury. Because you are an emotion of anger while you use your hands to spank them. If you cannot control yourself by spanking them ,you will forget what you grab at the time you are at the state of stress. Do you spank your kids if you are not angry? I don't think so. I think that the first time your kids do something you don't like ,you just raise your voice and scream or yell or just about voice. But when your patient is up and your blood is high, that's the time you use your hands or anything you can grab to spank them. Try to calm down and lower your voice when you are instructing your kids and do not use any names when you are mad. Be patient and understanding. But some kids is just hard to discipline, what will you do? Find out what makes them behave that way? Ask for your relatives any ideas to help your situations. Why would need your force to discipline your kids? That does not change the way your kids behave. They just slow down but does not mean they will change. Disciplinary actions should be productive for both of the parents and the kids. Like myself, I was beaten to death with my grandmother who raised me. She has a very strict rules that she learned from Spanish culture because our country was invade by the Spaniards if I am not mistaken. I still remember the hitting that she did to me. At one time, she forgot what she just grab and beat me from it. I was bruised all over my body and I cannot walk. I don't think that it help me, because in my mind I am thinking of revenge and I was like 8 years old. I have learned to do household chores even though we just live in a small barn but we do have some chores to do. I cook our foods and I always burn it so I got beaten for that. I wash our clothes and cannot clean it so I got beaten for that too. I felt like there was no days that she won't beat me for any reasons. And when she died, I was of course ,lonely and sad. I did not killed her if that's what you think. She actually died in a natural causes. She was 72 years old. And from the time she died ,I am living alone and start treating my bruises that she left for me. I loved her dearly and I will never forget her. I still visit her grave as I could .When I cannot do the things in her command I got beaten. So I grew up like I have to stay away from people because I am afraid that if I will make mistake they might beat me. I prefer to live alone and I have nothing to worry about. I do not think that I was abused with my grandmother but I think she just have a very strict way of disciplining me.

Instructions

Difficulty: Challenging

1. Keep your hands away from your kids especially when you are mad.
2. Everybody makes mistakes and so do with your kids, why would you punish them with your hands when you can work it out through verbal language.
3. Is spanking only for your kids? How about if you parents makes mistakes,does anyone will spank you too? I don't think adults likes spanking for disciplinary actions and the same with your children they do not like being spank too.