How to Face the Fear of Rejection After a Divorce
After a divorce, it is easy for some people to blame themselves for the failure of their marriage, and to interpret the break-up purely as a rejection. Unfortunately, this fear of rejection may help to prevent or doom any future romantic relationships. By getting out and meeting new people, and by refusing to hide alone in your house, you can face the fear of rejection after a divorce.
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Get out and socialize as much as possible. Feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem can only increase when you avoid social contact by staying at home and watching television every night. Reconnect with old friends or visit relatives, which will help you to interact with others while maintaining your comfort levels.
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Join an online dating website that caters to people who have been divorced, or a similarly themed support group. This is a great way to meet others who may share your fear of rejection, and who are cautiously testing the waters as a way to boost their self-esteem. These types of activities allow you to socialize at your own pace, and will help you to face the insecurities and fears that are common after a divorce.
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Maintain a realistic attitude when you start dating again, and try not to fall in love with the first person you meet. Statistics show that the first relationship after a divorce will most likely fail, but that it is an important step in working out your emotional issues, which will start the healing process.
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Face the fear of rejection after a divorce by doing something to improve yourself. Whether you decide to start an exercise regimen, buy a new wardrobe or get a makeover, you will be taking the first step in boosting your confidence, which will certainly make you more attractive to others.
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Keep the topic of conversation away from your ex-spouse and your recent divorce, especially when on a date. By spending a lot of time complaining about your ex, you are sending the wrong signal to the person you are with, causing him or her to wonder if you will one day be complaining about them too. Stay upbeat and positive, and only talk about your divorce or your ex if you are specifically asked.
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Tips & Warnings
Going out on a group date may be an ideal way to reduce some of the stress and anxiety that may occur when you meet someone for the first time.
