How to Talk to Teens About Being Gay

In this day and age when homosexuality is not the taboo subject it once was, it is almost inevitable that you will have to talk to your child, or a child in your care, about what it means to be gay. It is important that you feel comfortable discussing the subject, so that the talk with your teen goes smoothly.

Instructions

Difficulty: Easy

1. Discuss the subject of being gay without being judgmental. If teens feel uncomfortable with the manner in which you communicate with them, they will be less likely to confide in you.
2. Explain the mechanics of what it means to be gay, but don't leave out the emotional aspect of the lifestyle. Let teens know that homosexuals share the same emotions and usually want the same things in life as straight people.
3. Make teens aware that not all people are accepting of the gay lifestyle. Although they have the right to their own beliefs, they have no right to impose those beliefs on others.
4. Be understanding if the teen in your life believes she might be gay. Help her to express her feelings to you without fear of rejection or ridicule. Let her know that what she feels now won't necessarily be the way she will always feel, but that you are there for her regardless.
5. Warn your child about the dangers of unsafe sexual activity. Help your child make safe and responsible choices if the need arises by explaining safe-sex practices and educating him on where he can buy condoms if he needs them.
6. Find a group that your teen can join that will allow him or her to discuss what your child is going through if he or she believes themselves to be gay. In some cases, it is easier to talk to a person who has been through what your teen may encounter than someone who has no notion of what to expect.
7. Be open to what your teen is telling you. Being close-minded about what your child is going through or the lifestyle he or her is choosing can result in you being shut out from your teen's life altogether.

Tips & Warnings

• If you don't understand the homosexual lifestyle enough to discuss it with your child, pick up a book at the library or bookstore.
• Don't talk down to teens, since most are much more worldly and sophisticated than they were in the past. Be truthful and direct with them.