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Step 1
Pay attention. No mom in the history of momkind has ever been happy about having to repeat herself. Listen to her the first time and pay attention. Make an effort to really do this and watch the happy happen.
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Step 2
Do your share of the housework without being asked or reminded. Make your bed, pick up after yourself, cook a meal, swish the toilet, wash your own dishes, etc. Don’t wait for her to remind you. Whatever you do, don’t wait for her to do it for you.
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Step 3
Buy her a present. Sure, it’s the thought that counts, but every mom has a collection of homemade candy dishes and cards. Spend a couple of dollars out of your own money on something she will really enjoy and watch her eyes light up. Sometimes, the effort can mean even more than the thought.
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Step 4
Give her a real day off. Make it a full day and don’t cop out by choosing Mother’s Day or her birthday. Pick a random day and handle as many of the things she normally does as possible. Do the laundry, grab the mail, pick up groceries, make dinner and pick up younger kids at school.
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Step 5
Be nice. Have a good attitude and be project good cheer throughout the day. Be polite and resist the urge to argue. A day without sarcasm or arguments can make even the most hardened mom happy.
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Step 6
Take her out. Take her to breakfast and her favorite bookstore. Go bead or yarn shopping if that’s her thing or take her to the racetrack if that’s what she would prefer. Whatever you do, make sure it is something she wants to do.
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Step 7
Talk with her. Ask her about her day and give her all the time she needs to answer. Let her go into detail or run off on tangents. People do a lot of talking to and at moms, but not nearly as much talking with them.
Comments
princessophelia said
on 11/30/2009 This is a great article, I'm trying to be more appreciative of my mom as of late. :) Thank you.
RaeWrites said
on 10/1/2008 I should mention that these ideas will only work when you have a good relationship with your mother. These are not intended for people in estranged, difficult or abusive relationships.
LadyAmy1979 said
on 9/16/2008 Although I am out on my own, and have been for several years, these suggestions were part of my daily routine while I was under my parents roof. Since then, I have gone out of my way to do things to make my mom feel extra special. THEY DO NOT WORK with my mother. She still picks fights with me, "plays favorites" with my older ( and only) brother, and shows no concern for anything happening in my life, unless she needs something from me. Homemade dinners for her birthday and Mother's Day, trips to the mall on my dime, calling HER every day to check on her----apparently these are not acts of kindness that she reocgnizes as love. She would even rather spend MY BIRTHDAY with her son, since " that day of the week is his only day off, so we're going to spend it with him" The "we" she is talking about is her and my father.
Anyway, you can only do so much for someone in your life to prove your
teresasandoy said
on 6/24/2008 Hi,
This is my first to search this kind of topic. I was shocked because I have lack of love with my mother. Now, I realize that she needs more time. So, even though I am married I am try my best to give her happiness. I will thank God to have my loving mother. My mother is so kind,understanding,loving and she has everything. I believe that God will forgive all of my sins with my beloved mother. thanks.