How to Reject an Invitation to be a Bridesmaid

Your friend is getting married, and you’re thrilled. You love her and her fiancé and wish them a long, happy life together. But when she asks you to join the bridal party, your first thought is to run the other way. Maybe it’s a time constraint. Maybe lack of money. Whatever the reason, do not feel pressured to accept. The below guidelines will help you retain the friendship while declining the invitation.

Difficulty: Easy

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Honesty

1. Thank your friend for the invitation.

2. Show interest by asking what the position would entail.

3. Be honest. If you are overwhelmed at work and don’t think you can give her wedding the attention it deserves, let her know. If you are strapped for cash, tell her.

4. Offer to help with other, smaller aspects of the wedding, such as party favors.

5. Remind her that you are thrilled about the ceremony and can’t wait to attend.

Tips & Warnings

• If money is an issue, decide beforehand whether you will accept should the bride offer to pay your share.
• Make a decision and be firm. A pushy bride might have the power to coerce you into saying yes.

Resources

• www.theknot.com