How to Stop an Ex From Turning a Child Against the Other Parent

This will offer some suggestions as to alleviate this problem.

Instructions

Difficulty: Challenging

Things You’ll Need:

• Patience
• The ability to not display any negative feelings in front of kids

1. First off, always keep one thing in mind.
   - You cannot change the way someone else acts especially after a divorce
   - When you show your children as much as possible that you love them your
   your children will be less likely to pay attention to the negative
   comments
2. When they repeat negative things they have heard.
   - Never take it out on the kids. They tend to repeat what they hear.
   - Try to avoid falling into the he said/she said interactions
   - Never include your children in your disputes
3. Always be as polite and patient with your ex when interacting in front of the kids.
   - This truly does make a big impression on how they treat people later.
   - This will also affect how they react to situations in their lives from
   then on.
   - If you are upset, take two deep breaths. Count to 10. Tell the kids
   you love them no matter what.
4. Do your best to work out any issues away from the kids regarding Parenting Time/Visitation/Picking Up/ Dropping off.
   - Dealing with these issues in front of your kids shows them how you may
   really feel.
   - You are the one they will learn love from. If your showing them love
   and caring as much as possible. Does it really matter what the ex
   says anyways?

Tips & Warnings

• Be patient with your kids and ex in front of your kids ALWAYS!
• Try contacting your Friend of the Court to discuss these problems
• Possibly consider counseling for you, your kids and maybe the ex
• Be nice, when the ex is being nasty in front of the kids. BE NICE!
• Always hide your dismay for the ex in front of your kids
• Always try to make it amicable for both parties when resolving issues
• DO Not discuss Support issues in front of your kids, ever.
• Do Not say negative things in front of your kids about your ex ever.
• Avoid discussing other Divorce issues in front of the kids at anytime
• When the kids repeat negatives they have heard avoid yelling at them and the ex