How to Read Between the Lines

How many times have you had a conversation with someone, and their words didn’t match up with their actions? Conventional wisdom says action speaks louder than words, but it also says that a man is only as good as his word. Which is correct? How do you read between the lines to get at what’s really being said? Confusion arises when words and actions aren’t in sync. Read on to learn how to read between the lines.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Yourself
• A conversational partner
• Good eyesight
• Intuition

1. Pay attention to the words. What is the person saying? Are they using phrases like “to be honest (with you)” or “I’m not gonna lie to you,” in an effort to convince you of their sincerity?

2. Pay attention to the tone of voice. Is the person speaking in a clear, calm manner? Are they getting defensive? Is their voice raised? Pay particular attention when someone tries to shout you down. You are definitely hitting a nerve.

3. Pay attention to body language. Ninety percent of communication is nonverbal. Look at how a person is sitting, standing and staring during the conversation. Are they fidgeting? Looking around the room? Arms and legs crossed? Leaning toward or away from you? Contrary to popular belief, a steady, eye-to-eye gaze does not necessarily imply honesty. This is a trick that many liars use in order to give the semblance of sincerity.

4. Do a gut check. When in doubt, listen to what your gut says. If something feels off, then it probably is. Your first reaction is usually the correct one.

Tips & Warnings

• Everyone who fidgets and sits with their arms crossed, while staring at you, is not necessarily telling an untruth. Don't falsely accuse someone due to mitigating circumstances.
• Be mindful and don’t second-guess yourself.
• Paying attention to what is not said is sometimes more important than what is actually said.
• The dishonest usually count on the innate decency of humans when trying to get over on someone.

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