How to Handle a Jealous Bridesmaid

Be Kind to Your Jealous Bridesmaid

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So the happiest day of your life is coming up, and your bridesmaids couldn't be happier, right? Well, maybe not. Unfortunately, weddings can bring out the worst in people, including jealousy. Your best friend loves you, but if her boyfriend just dumped her last week, she may have a hard time basking in the glow of your story book romance. Your older sister loves you, but the fact that you're getting married first may bring out some serious resentment issues. So what do you do with a bridesmaid who's having issues with your happiness? Here are some tips on how to deal with a jealous bridesmaid.

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Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Step1

Accept her jealousy. There's nothing you can do about the fact that she has baggage, so don't stress out about the fact that your wedding is making her miserable. Understand that she may not be the perfect bridesmaid, and cut her some slack.

Step2

Express how grateful you are to your jealous bridesmaid for participating in your wedding. Show your appreciation often. This may deflate some of her resentment.

Step3

Treat your jealous bridesmaid to a day out together. Buy her lunch, a manicure, and anything else that makes her feel special. Do not talk about the wedding. In fact, don't talk about yourself much at all-- talk about her.

Step4

Shop for bridesmaid dresses together. Try to find a gown that makes her look fabulous. If she can feel like a princess on your special day, she'll feel less resentful.

Step5

Assign her a special task at the wedding. Perhaps she can give the wedding toast or do a meaningful reading during the ceremony. Make sure she feels important and special.

Step6

Help her meet eligible singles at your reception. Try seating them at her table. Give wedding guests a heads-up that your hot single friend might like to meet their handsome sons.

Step7

Give her an extra-special bridesmaid gift that symbolizes the importance of your friendship.

Tips & Warnings

Don't lose your temper, even if she's a little obnoxious. That will make things worse and give her an excuse to be angry.
If your bridesmaid is jealous because she just got dumped, do not invite the ex to the wedding unless absolutely necessary.
Don't let your jealous bridesmaid walk all over you. Yes, you want to go out of your way to be nice, but there's a limit. Be kind but firm.

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Comments

sunshine68 said

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on 7/22/2008 Being a woman, i would not tolerate such behavior...and if this is someting to be tolerated then its no wonder i dont associate with a lot of women cause they act like as described...if my girlfriend's boyfreind just broke up with her before my marriage i would not expect her to be there no matter what the cost amd of she does then that would be her choice...women are soo selfish

glkjz said

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on 2/20/2008 dear sweetface, unfortunately youre right alot of times you do find out who youre friends are when your a bride. obviously you were never a real friend to your roomate or you would be celebrating her instead of being jealous just because it isnt happening to you. Grow up and realise that noone gets the same good things at the same time!!!!!!!!!! I know what its like to wish to be married and be the last one - i waited 4 years for my husband to propose and was the last one in my family to be married. But that didnt stop me from being a true friend to any of my engaged friends even if it was painful for me at times. Maybe the reason you havent gotten an engagement ring yet is because you dont know how to be a real friend.It takes two real friends to become a husband and wife. Maybe the reason why you dont have a ring yet is because youre not mature enough for the real committment and frien

SWEETFACE said

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on 12/4/2007 Actually my roommate is engaged to a guy that I introduced her to and she has been with him less than I ahve been with my boyfriend. I find it very unfair. This guy dumped his girlfriend of 8 years to be with my roommate. I think I should be getting married first and now I am the last of my friends to get married. It makes me not want to be in her wedding or even attend.
I think engagements/ marriages can be the end of a friendship and brides just need to realize that.

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