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Step 1
Tell the truth. Do not try to minimize the fact of death by saying that Grandma went away. Your children need to know the truth according to your belief system about death and the after life. Explain death to them in a manner appropriate to their age and understanding.
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Step 2
Be ready to comfort. Expect grief from your child and comfort her the best way that you can. Hug her tight. It may be a great comfort to your child to tell her that Grandma is not in pain.
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Step 3
Be ready to answer their questions. You might want to prepare in advance by anticipating some of the questions they might have. Answer every question honestly but with gentleness.
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Step 4
Depending upon your child's age and level of closeness to the deceased, you might consider not having her attend the funeral. If she is old enough to understand death, you could talk to her about the service and have a part in the decision making process.
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Step 5
Once children realize death is a reality, expect insecurity about losing Mommy. Over the months, you should continue to talk to your child about the loved one they lost if she mentions that person. Continue to reassure her that Grandma is not in pain. If she is worried about losing you, continue to reassure her that Mommy is okay.
