How to Tell if Your Lover is a Psychopath

Psychopaths can keep their tendencies hidden until it's too late.

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Think Ted Bundy. Suave, charming, attractive and on the surface, completely normal. That’s how the guys or gals start out, then they turn into psychopaths. Actually, the psychopathic tendencies are always there, but they will slowly materialize without you realizing it. You may fall in too deep unless you’re very observant and very careful.

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Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Things You’ll Need:

Keen awareness
Courage
Cell phone
Feedback from family and friends

Step1

Look for control issues. If he always has to pick where you go for a date, where you sit at the movies or orders your food without asking what you want, step back. Also be wary if he needs to know where you are and who you are with every millisecond of the day.

Step2

Observe his obsessions. Psychopaths can be very obsessive-compulsive on the smallest things. If he freaks out when you move a knick-knack on his mantle or fold a towel the wrong way, you may be in for a scary ride. Run from people who iron their jeans then hang them in the closet. Get packing if he follows you around with a broom while you’re preparing dinner.

Step3

Watch for isolation. Psychopaths work best once they have you isolated from family, friends and anyone who can point out what a kook you’re involved with. He’ll start by needing to be with you every moment, leaving you no time for others. He’ll continue by curtailing your phone calls. He’ll conclude by taking you to isolated places, like his "romantic" trailer up in the mountains, where you can’t get away.

Step4

Beware the green-eyed monster. If he becomes insanely jealous and enraged when you talk to a waiter, your friends or even your brother, get the heck out of the relationship.

Tips & Warnings

Try to catch the behavior early on and get out. Don’t wait for the trailer in the mountains.
Ask about his ex-girlfriends. If he keeps saying how he wants to run them over with his truck, pack your bags.
Always tell your friends where you’re going and how long you’ll be gone.
Check his criminal record. This can be done online in many state’s databases. Call law enforcement if you need to know how.
Never travel without your cell phone.
Don’t be without an escape route. You can even flee from that trailer in the woods if you noted the nearest highway on the way up and brought your running shoes.
Don’t date someone who spent the last 10 years in a maximum security prison.