How to Break the Cycle

Breaking the cycle of pain, abuse and depression can be the most difficult thing a person tackles in life. In some cases, the cycle is generations old, passed from a parent to an unwitting child. Through introspection, counseling and opening oneself to new opportunities, the cycle can be broken and a person can obtain a new lease on life.

Instructions

1. Identify the cause of the problem. Pay close attention to your own actions and those of people around you. Knowing the cause of the issue can help break the cycle. Think about your needs--those that are being met and those that are not. Take responsibility for your feelings, actions and choices in life.

2. Set active steps to change the root of the problem and lead a healthy lifestyle. Breaking the cycle may require a complete overhaul of your life, from the food you eat to your exercise regimen to the people that are around you.

3. Find new activities that take you out of your normal routine and expose you to different experiences. The simple act of starting a new hobby or joining a group can give you enough confidence to change other circumstances in your life.

4. Make new rules to live by and stick with it. Address the situation immediately when rules are broken. Emphasize valuing yourself and your healthy relationships if you are being abused. Consider the long-term outcomes of your actions.

5. Recognize the warning signs of a relapse and address it as soon as possible. Plan for the times when old habits emerge or problem individuals come back into your life. Remain alert and prepared to confront the situation.

Tips & Warnings

• Talk with a trained therapist if you are at a loss as how to start the healing process.