How to Orgasm by Anal Stimulation

Anal sex is a sexual act where a person inserts a toy or an erect penis into the anus during sexual intercourse. The following steps can help beginners and their partners achieve orgasm from anal stimulation.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

1. Lubricate the anus well. The anus isn't designed for you to insert items inside it--there is no natural lubricant as there is with the vagina. Insertion can also cause painful muscle spasms. Without lubricant, it's difficult to extract the penis or toy during one of these spasms.

2. Go slowly. This one should be obvious but many people tend to get over excited and plunge right in. The anus, and your partner, might not be used to this kind of activity. Start with a finger and gently work up to inserting the head of your penis or the tip of the toy before taking the plunge.

3. Allow the anus, and your partner, to relax after full insertion. Just like it can hurt to have vaginal sex the first time, anal sex may be painful as well. Once your partner learns to control her rectal muscles, the pleasure should increase for both of you.

4. Listen to your partner. Be very mindful of his needs at every moment. Adjust the depth of the rhythm of your thrusts to accommodate his pleasure, not yours. If you are using a toy, then you have all the control and should simply do what feels good to your partner.

Tips & Warnings

• Many women can't achieve orgasm through anal stimulation alone. Massage her ****oris with either your finger or a vibrator. Alternately, inserting a dildo into her vagina. This can cause an extreme sensation of "fullness" and heightened pleasure.
• Many people are reluctant to touch, or let others touch, their anus if they feel it's dirty. A wash-up may be required before you begin anal sex. This can be a great ice breaker to the actual event by washing each other's anus and using finger play.
• Be careful when praticing anal sex. Condoms are known to be less effective and more prone to burst or slip during anal sex than vaginal sex.

[neopunk]

on 12/8/2007 "This can be a great ice breaker to the actual event by washing each other's anus and using finger play."

If you haven't broken the ice by the time you've got to anal, I'd suggest you need a few more dates before you start.