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How to Masturbate in Front of a Mate

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Masturbation is a popular activity for couples. Watching your mate masturbate is arousing and a great choice of foreplay. Some couples have one person who is more comfortable masturbating while being watched. Get the most from masturbating foreplay by relaxing and realizing that your mate enjoys watching you.

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Instructions

Difficulty: Easy

Step1

Dim the lights, play some soft music and get comfortable. Lie back on the bed with your mate lying next to you or lying the opposite way watching you. Communicate what makes you comfortable so both of you enjoy the act of masturbation.

Step2

Ask your mate for help in getting aroused. They can tell you an erotic story or how they plan on pleasing you. Close your eyes and visualize the story. Slowly start rubbing your thighs, nipples or stomach. Turn your attention to your more sensitive areas after your mate gets aroused. Don't focus only on sensitive areas if you want full enjoyment from shared masturbation.

Step3

Masturbate with your mate's guidance. Let them tell you what to do and follow their lead. After your mate has had control for a few minutes, start doing things your way again. Include movements your mate enjoyed watching when they were in control along with movements you enjoy.

Step4

Perform mutual masturbation. Lie facing each other and slowly start caressing and massaging each others bodies. Then, let them place their hand over yours while you masturbate, giving them the choice of directing pressure and speed. Return the favor when your mate is ready for stimulation.

Step5

Use an erotic toy when you masturbate. Let your mate help by giving them the toy while you continue using your fingers and hands. Give your mate control again by letting them direct how you use the toy.

Tips & Warnings

Make eye contact with your mate during masturbation.
Don't focus only on your sensitive areas. Remember to lick your lips and caress other parts of your body.
Never do anything that makes you uncomfortable or hurts. Let your mate know when you aren't willing to do something.

Comments

DMiller48 said

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on 6/12/2008 Masturbating with a women is such a turn on for me! Watching her get herself to orgasm gets me so HOT & HARD and turned on that many times I LOVE it more than intercourse!!! I also find out what she does to herself for the greatest pleasure and remember for times for me to get her to EXPLODE to ORGASM.

smeelink13 said

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on 4/13/2008 i really like to use toys when i masturbate, should i let my boyfriend use the toy for me so that he knows what to do? please write back asap, were doin it tonight!