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Step 1
Open the lines of communication. The silent treatment hinders resolution. Discuss the reasons for their disapproval. Encourage honesty even if it isn't easy to say or hear.
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Step 2
Disprove the stereotypes. Family members often buy into the hype. Since there are stereotypes for every race, it's important to help family members to see that the stereotypes don't apply to your spouse. They have your best interests at heart even though they are misguided in their reservations.
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Step 3
Reassure family members that children will be exposed to both cultures. Often reservations from family members stem from fear of how the children of an interracial marriage will be raised. Despite their reservations, it is often a child that helps family member better deal with the interracial union.
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Step 4
Emphasize that social standing is not more important than happiness. Family members become so focused on how an interracial marriage will affect their social standing that they forget what is important. Reiterating that your spouse is what makes you happy can help family members let go of their concerns and embrace the relationship because of their love for you.
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Step 5
Give family members something to love about your mate. When speaking with family members who have a difficult time dealing with the marriage, focus on the good. If you feel the need to confide in someone about issues that you are having in the marriage, talk to someone who is willing to see the issues objectively rather than place undue emphasis on the interracial aspect of your marriage.
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acherryscott said
on 8/10/2009 This may also help.
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