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Step 1
Teach children the basics of impulse control. Consider enrolling children in sports, music or arts programs that require and reward self-discipline.
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Step 2
Help children think about consequences before taking action. Remind children that each of their actions has a consequence, whether positive or negative. Let children immediately experience both positive and negative consequences so that they realize that positive consequences are more favorable than negative ones.
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Step 3
Open up lines of communication with children. Let children know that they can talk about problems or stressful situations with an attentive, concerned adult rather than act out. Remind them that they can ask for advice or help when trying to cope. Stress the importance of listening to other children during a conflict, too.
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Step 4
Encourage children to find positive outlets for pent-up stress or anger. Deep-breathing exercises, drawing, writing and calm conversations are ways that can help a child cope with a negative situation.
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Step 5
Introduce children to the concept of being in touch with their emotions. Being able to recognize feelings of frustration, anger, embarrassment and fear can help curb destructive, uncontrolled behavior. An understanding of empathy can also deter problems with other children.
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Step 6
Remind children that they are capable of controlling their own emotions, thoughts and behavior.
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Step 7
Reward children for exhibiting self-control. Recognizing and acknowledging children's improvements can encourage them to keep refining their behavior. Use positive reinforcement in the form of intangible rewards, like verbal praise or compliments, to help encourage children to behave properly.
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Step 8
Lead by example. Practice methods of self-control like deep breathing, pauses, counting, calm tones and positive speech.
