Guys and gals are different creatures, by a long shot. Ladies have the hormone roller coaster to deal with on a monthly basis, be aware of this and make a mental note on your calender. If there is a time of the month where there seems to be a lot more emotions flying around from your female partner, this natural and deal with it. Guys you have the upper hand on this, you have male hormones and nobody know better how ignore things than a man. Don't get upset, go to the happy place in your head where you remember why you married this emotional person.
Step2
It's not hormones, wrong time of the month for that as you have checked your calender. What next? Look around, usually mess makers are to blame for needless stress. Clean it up, it's that simple to restore order in your homelife. If you're a slob, it's time to wake up and look in the mirror. Make changes in how you do things to always leave the place cleaner than you found it.
Step3
The place is clean and she's still upset, giving flowers is a great way to make things better. Give her an ear to listen to what she has to say, but don't respond with a fix, women need listeners. They will deal with their problems they way they want to. Guys think they need to fix the problems and that's our programming.
Step4
If all else fails, take her out for supper, a movie but most important is to spend your time with her. This is what she wants the most. When she says "you're a cold person", she really means "hold me close". When she says "you're a cheap ass" then you better take her on a date and spend some time with her. (she may be right)
Tips & Warnings
Listening is easy if you can remove distractions, turn off the TV and look at her when she is speaking.
Take out the trash
Clean up the mess
Wash and clean her car
Do the laundry, fold it put it away
Put gas in her car without her asking first
Hold her hand
Tell her you love her
Bring her chocolate
If it's PMS time, give her space when she asks for it, but be there for her when she needs you.
on 6/19/2008
OMG what is the world coming too? My wife is a living roller coaster ride from hell on steroids. Women's expectations are way off base. Men have been displaced by an overzealous womens equality movement that has created this demand for equal everything when men and women are just the opposite. Men are men, women are women... but not any more. Today, men are men and women are women wanting to be, to have, and believe they DESERVE it all no matter how they treat men whom they believe to be completely incompetence unfeeling worthless sacks of crap that should feel lucky that we are graced by the womans presence and boy we better not step out of line or else....
Give me a break. My wife was raised by a feminist without a clue who just taught her the same bs that is fed to women these days through mass media. Why do you think women are being so illicit and behaving so badly these days
on 11/22/2007
The "Bring her chocolate" tip should be the last part of step number 1. The hormone roller coaster ride is less violent with the addition on chocolate.
on 11/21/2007
Good points, especially about listening rather than coming up with solutions. It doesn't make sense to me to make decisions based on emotion but it makes a lot of sense to women to do so -- and my last GF said "But love is an emotion."
I held my tongue on the point that the first two times in my life I'd been deeply in love, it led to bad relationships.
One tip that helps a lot is to make specific, concrete compliments spontaneously. Your hair looks nice. You look good in that. Did you lose a little weight or what? Mm that smells good. Wow, you put a lot of work into that project and it looks great. And if it's not something to my taste, use a neutral non-disparaging way to say it's not to my taste but well done -- "This is very cute and feminine, it looks almost childlike." If she wants that effect it's not an insult.
Typical Angry Wife
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timetogo said
on 6/19/2008 OMG what is the world coming too? My wife is a living roller coaster ride from hell on steroids. Women's expectations are way off base. Men have been displaced by an overzealous womens equality movement that has created this demand for equal everything when men and women are just the opposite. Men are men, women are women... but not any more. Today, men are men and women are women wanting to be, to have, and believe they DESERVE it all no matter how they treat men whom they believe to be completely incompetence unfeeling worthless sacks of crap that should feel lucky that we are graced by the womans presence and boy we better not step out of line or else....
Give me a break. My wife was raised by a feminist without a clue who just taught her the same bs that is fed to women these days through mass media. Why do you think women are being so illicit and behaving so badly these days
cstimm said
on 11/22/2007 The "Bring her chocolate" tip should be the last part of step number 1. The hormone roller coaster ride is less violent with the addition on chocolate.
robertsloan2 said
on 11/21/2007 If you're the neat freak and she's the slob, any of those cleaning-up things can be construed as guilt trips though, and start fights.
robertsloan2 said
on 11/21/2007 Good points, especially about listening rather than coming up with solutions. It doesn't make sense to me to make decisions based on emotion but it makes a lot of sense to women to do so -- and my last GF said "But love is an emotion."
I held my tongue on the point that the first two times in my life I'd been deeply in love, it led to bad relationships.
One tip that helps a lot is to make specific, concrete compliments spontaneously. Your hair looks nice. You look good in that. Did you lose a little weight or what? Mm that smells good. Wow, you put a lot of work into that project and it looks great. And if it's not something to my taste, use a neutral non-disparaging way to say it's not to my taste but well done -- "This is very cute and feminine, it looks almost childlike." If she wants that effect it's not an insult.
JesaLynn said
on 11/20/2007 Wish all husbands, & guys would read and follow this article. Great piece.