How to Be a Good Houseguest During the Holidays

Traveling to "Meet the Parents" this year for Thanksgiving weekend? Here's how to make a great impression without trying too hard or stressing yourself out!

Difficulty: Easy

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Table manners
• Small gift
• A bit of research

1. Brush up on your table manners for the big day. Do you know how to hold a knife and fork? You won't be expected to carve the bird, but basic table etiquette is essential to make a great impression.

2. Bring a small gift for the lady of the house. Nothing too ostentatious or personal; a small box of truffles or a scented candle is fine. If this feels awkward, pick something special from your area or a recent trip so as to have an excuse. "I brought you the best wine that we picked up when we were in Napa. We knew you'd love it." Your thoughtfulness will pay off.

3. Make sure to have topics to discuss. Be up on big national news stories or popular books. The New York Times is ideal reading material before your visit. Avoid topics of religion, politics or sex and nothing raunchy or potentially offensive. Sometimes parents like to test you and ask awkward questions. It's better not to answer at all, so say something like, "Interesting. I'll have to think about that and get back to you."

4. Although you are to be on your best behavior, be personable and warm during your stay. Tell stories of childhood vacations, fun moments with your sweetie and favorite hobbies. The reason you are on this visit is so you can get to know them and they you. Be appropriate but friendly.

5. Before you arrive, ask if you can bring anything, or make anything to contribute to the Thanksgiving meal. If you don't bake or cook, you may want to bring wine or cookies (in addition to the hostess gift). You are not a guest to be served, but a member at their Thanksgiving feast. Contribute as much as you can.

6. Don't impose on the household. Make your bed (even if you don't at home), don't spend hours in the only bathroom and always offer to help with cooking and cleaning. You don't need to paint the house during your stay, but clearing the table and serving coffee are a big help to a holiday hostess.

Tips & Warnings

• Bring a bathrobe and appropriate pajamas.
• Bring a photo album so his family can get to know you better.
• Bring a camera and take photos; frame one and give it as a thank you gift later.
• Don't wear too much perfume, makeup or jewelry. It's his mom's house, not Skybar.
• Don't bring up previous relationships for either you or your sweetheart. It's tacky.

[WriterGig]

on 11/28/2007 Great tips! Thanks. I wish my guests would read this....

[Blackbear]

on 11/25/2007 Great advice! Thanks.