How to Deal With a Spouse's Wandering Eye

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Every time you're out at the beach with your husband, he keeps checking out the young babes. Is he bored, is he serious, or is he window shopping? Or maybe you're out with your wife at a party and you notice she's spending all her time ogling your other male friends. Time to take a look at your relationship to see when all this started, decide what's really going on, and make a few adjustments to get that roving eye looking back in your direction.

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How to Deal with a Spouse's Wandering Eye

Step1

Try and remember back to when you first noticed this wandering eye with your husband or wife. Was there some event that triggered this, or was this the habit of your spouse from before the two of you were married?

Step2

Of course the first step is talk to your spouse about this problem. Tell him how you feel when you see he's tuning you out and tuning in someone else. See if he's aware that he does it.

Step3

A wandering eye can be the sign of boredom in the relationship. Try to harness some of that wandering energy and rope it back toward your relationship. Find an activity the two of you can do together that's fun for both of you, and tell your spouse you want to devote one night a week to that certain activity together. The activity should inspire closeness - intimate dinner, snuggling during a movie, time to focus on each other one-on-one.

Step4

Sometimes the wandering eye happens because you have let yourself become a slave to the dull routine of your relationship. Perk yourself back up. Go out and enjoy yourself! Join a class, write a novel, learn to play golf -- do something you always wanted to do but never made time for. Your new energy will make you feel refreshed. Your spouse will naturally be interested in your new happiness, and what you're excited about trying out. Your spouse may even join you!

Step5

If this is a longer-term problem, with infidelities attached, and you haven't been able to resolve it on your own as a couple, you may want to consider marriage counseling.

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c0ld said

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on 4/4/2008 Men stare and look at beautiful, sexy women. Maybe he's looking because your a fat old hag? If you do "punch" him, prepare to get punched back, if its ok for him its ok for you right?

Reasonable1 said

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on 12/28/2007 One could always "punch" him in those beautiful little eyes! It's hard to stare with swollen visors covering them. :-)

Reasonable1 said

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on 12/28/2007 Men, when you STARE at other women, you make the one that you are with feel like you are unhappy and unsatisfied. In short, you look like you are on the prowl for something better. When other women catch you staring at them, you are telling them that you are interested and want more. This may not be a language that men speak, but if you are trying to understand how a woman thinks and feels, here is a clue. WE CAN'T STAND THAT.