How to find a Soul Mate through eHarmony

eHarmony is an online relationship service founded by relationship expert, author and clinical psychologist, Dr. Neil Clark Warren. The company states that, "eHarmony married couples are significantly happier than couples married for a similar length of time who met by other means." Knowing that, how could you not give it a try? If you're thinking of signing up with eHarmony, keep these tips in mind to increase your chances of finding your soul mate.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

1. To quote the ancient Greeks, "Know thyself."
   
   Before jumping in head first, spend some time thinking about your ideal relationship. Do you want to be married or do you just want someone who's committed? How would you feel if your wife already had children? Would you be willing to leave the life you know to move to another country to be with your husband? Would you be comfortable dating someone who is culturally different or is it important to have a partner with a similar upbringing? These are the difficult, even life-changing questions you should already know the answers to before you fill out your profile.
2. Be honest on your profile.
   
   When you're filling out your profile, it may feel like the spotlight is on you, harshly lighting aspects of your personality that you'd rather keep hidden. This is NOT the time to for little white lies to put yourself in a better light. Your answers will match you with personalities best suited to you. If you want the kind of relationship where you can be yourself, it's crucial that you're completely honest as you fill out your personality details.
3. Take your time.
   
   It's not a race to the finish line. While some people stumble upon their soul mate right away, many others will take months before coming across a match they're interested in. Don't jump at the first guy who makes it to the open communication stage. There are lots of interesting, attractive, wonderful people out there, but the whole purpose of this process is to find the best match for YOU. Don't be surprised if you find yourself chatting happily with more than one match. You're going to come across a lot of great individuals and you can take as much time as you need to find the one that's perfect for you.
4. Be choosy but not picky.
   
   You may have your heart set on a 5'7" volleyball player with clear blue eyes who loves cooking, but you'll enjoy the process more if you accept the fact that your ideal mate might not come wrapped in the package you envision. Does that mean you have to settle? Of course not, but you should keep an open mind while reading through your matches.
5. Do a gut check.
   
   As you read your match' s answers, how do you feel? Do any of her answers make you cringe? Would you be embarrassed to show his responses to a friend? If you do a gut check and sense something is just not right, trust your instincts and politely close the match. On the flip side, if you find yourself logging into your account every 10 minutes to see if he's responded, and find yourself giggling at his wit or touched by her sincerity, keep that match going!
6. Don't be afraid to ask the tough questions.
   
   eHarmony does a great job of getting the important questions out in the open. If, however, there is a particular issue that's very important to you, don't hesitate to have that discussion with your match. Open communication is a great opportunity to get to know each other, and you'll feel so relieved when you come across the one who feels just the same way you do.

Tips & Warnings

• Although you have to pay to use eHarmony's services, it is free to fill out the Personality Profile and view your first matches.
• The advice for eHarmony is the same as other relationship sites: keep your wits about you. Don't be too quick to reveal personal details. If you plan on meeting, make sure it's in a public area and a close friend or family member is nearby or is at least aware of your itinerary.