How to Approach an Attractive Woman

Do you want to feel confident in approaching hot women. There are some secrets you might wish to know about.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Experience
• Patience
• Confidence

1. Before you dive into approaching the hot women that give you butterflies, first sit back and give yourself an assessment of your current approaching skills. You can either take the approaching quiz, or ask yourself some honest questions.
   
   Are you the kind of a person who's approaching most "regular" women in a charming and charismatic manner? Are you the kind of a man who can go into any new group of people, anywhere, and have most of them smiling?
   
   If you can, then just jump over to step 3, if not, you need to go a step back before you go for the hot women, and go to step 2.

2. Now, construct a plan for getting your charisma skills up to speed. Asses all your strengths and weaknesses. Which kind of people can you approach, which ones can't you? Where are you comfortable with people and where are you stilted and shy?
   
   Then, join as many social organizations as you can afford. Hobby groups, different classes, dance groups, volunteer organizations etc... And start talking to EVERYONE (hot women - optional).
   
   The secret to becoming a smooth conversationalist is simply to talk to as many people as possible. There are useful tools and techniques and tricks to help you along the way (look into the resources)

3. How do you know you've mastered step 2? Do you get invited to events all-the-time by the cool men you've met? Do these average women ask you to hang out with them? Do you have regular outings with large groups of cool friends (men who are great at approaching women, and women who are socially savvy).
   
   If yes, then you are ready to start approaching the hot women. What do you do?
   
   - Pick a conversation starter (look into the resources)
   - Approach hot woman and start a conversation
   - Repeat until you feel comfortable approaching any hot woman, anywhere
   
   It's that simple. I know you might think it can't be, and want to know the secret techniques and methods, but trust me, I have tried and applied every single piece of information on the subject, and at the end, this is what it comes down to. Master step 2 and 3, and you will have hot-women in your life, easily, and effortlessly.

Tips & Warnings

• Do note that there is no such thing as being too low or too shy... You can always break step 2 down to the smallest possible incremental levels. Some guys may have to start out by asking old ladies for the time... So what? It'll just take them longer to get there. There is no shame in starting below a certain level.
• Step 2 is crucial, and I pound on it so much, because guys who try to talk to hot women, refuse to accept that you need to first be able to talk to average girls and popular guys.

Resources

• Men's guide to approaching
• Conversation Starters
• This quiz will asses how you stack up when it comes to approaching and getting hot women

[showpup]

on 1/3/2009 I like your solid advice. So simple most men totally miss it.

When you practice your social skills, be certain to look the women in the eye when talking to them. This is how I 'test' anyone I meet for the first time. Whether you realize it or not, most people do. Go ahead, approach those women you feel are 'hot'.

Like I tell my sons, "if you don't think a girl is too good for you, I guarantee they aren't good enough." Think about it... 5 stars!

[ArtZoneStudios]

on 12/14/2008 You are all missing the real point: making social contact because you wish to do so. Holding back is important, too. You are holding back because you know something is missing or you would naturally just feel confident.

Any human being with skills has them because they practice those skills. Skills only become available to you as you practice. So you could have fun and take this practice lightly while remaining genuine.

Know what you are really after, and if it is shallow, know that, too. Shallow is less likely to succeed, but it trumps liars and turnoffs and fakes, oh, my!

But you knew that! Enjoy social practice in less stressful places/less showy places than a bar. See my article on flirting... it is guaranteed to work or your money back. (Yes, it's free, but tell your friends and help me get rich helping you get successful!)

[Psychstudent]

on 11/5/2008 Hey guys, from a women here, first and fore most, be yourself, have confidence. Women want a man who is strong and confident. If you believe you can be with a beutiful women then you can. Make her smile, say something nice. And the best trick of all (i've had this happen) Buy a drink ticket then walk up to her and pretend to pick it up off the floor. Ask her if she dropped it. When she says no, you can say well then it looks like your next rink is on me then. It will make her smile and its not as creepy as the guy who buys you drinks all night from across the bar but never speaks. lol good article.

[HowToDating]

on 10/25/2008 "There's one aspect of this whole article you failed to address...What if you're an ultra-geek like me?! ;-) "

The article is "how to de-geekify" yourself lol. Its about HOW to get social skills.

A geek is nothing more than a set of skills, and lack of others (more technical than social skills)... v.s. a jock who's the opposite.

There was NO person i've ever known who was a bigger geek than I was. If I could do it, anyone can.

Its called social skills, not "social talent" or "social genetics". Its all learnable.

[Thims]

on 10/25/2008 There's one aspect of this whole article you failed to address...What if you're an ultra-geek like me?! ;-)
Good information.