-
Step 1
First things first. . . remember that you raised him and have confidence in yourself as a mother. You did a good job, and despite the deepest, darkest fears you may have as a mother, he is a good kid.
-
Step 2
Find a respectful way to address both your son and his special someone about the issue. " Excuse me I can't see the TV, " when they are kissing and canoodling in your way. Or, a simple clearing of the throat might get their attention.
-
Step 3
Talk to your son. Tell him what you think without accusing him or the girlfriend of anything. Tell him that you are concerned about her sexual past. Tell him that you worry about him. Give him the chance to be honest. Be upfront, respectful, and non accusatory.
-
Step 4
Make sure you have informed your son of the reasons that you believe he should abstain from sex, or slow down his relationship with this girl. Again, avoid accusing her of being promiscuous, and avoid accusing him of making bad choices. Find a disguise, if you will. He should focus more on school work, or make sure he keeps in touch with his friends. Be honest and sensitive.
-
Step 5
Understand that he is a teenager and that you can only do so much. DO what you can, be honest be sensitive, and have faith in yourself as a parent. If you have done a good job, he will, eventually, do the right thing.
Comments
Devero said
on 1/2/2009 Im glad I don't have kids, but good article.
Imalion said
on 9/9/2008 It takes two to tango, darling. Also, stop ****-shaming. Sexuality does not automatically mean a person has no regard for morals or commitments. Unless your son's girlfriend is on top of more than your son on the couch, you dont have any reason to think she is promiscuous.
barefootinbath said
on 1/19/2008 How do you know the girlfriend is the promiscuous one? Perhaps your precious son is just as responsible!
deepthinkin said
on 11/2/2007 LOL! It's like you were there in the room witnessing the spectacle! Thanks for your input.