How to Practice Sexual Healing

For many of us, a lot of our accumulated karma and emotional distress centers around our sexual lives and feelings. All that we are is a result of what we have been and is, likewise, all that we shall become. In other words: biology becomes biography as well as the reverse. Feelings of sexual shame, manipulation and negativity bring the past moment into this one, sometimes poisoning the clear waters of the soul and any possibility of changing the way we do things. A sexual healing might definitely be in need for you if you’re reading this. Sexual healing can cleanse past sexual karma and exorcise the sexual ghosts of former lovers and experiences that still haunt your most intimate moments and diminish future erotic possibilities. If you want a clean sexual slate, this exercise will teach you how to do it. It will not, however, restore virginity or get you laid. In the shamanic tradition of Yaqui sorcery, as represented in the books of Carlos Castaneda, it is said that we leave psychic or spiritual traces inside one another after sex, and that the traces continue to feed on our energy, sometimes even sending the same destructive energy to other, newer partners. In everyday terms, we continue to be under the influence of experiences and people no longer actually present in our lives, sort of an emotional and sexual virus, a bad program for our sexual laptops. The heal this situation and clear the decks, as it were, for new sexual experiences and lovers, try these steps, especially when embarking on a new relationship, are on the cusp of having a sexual encounter or are subject to unpleasant sexual memories and dreams.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

1. Make a list of people you’ve had sex with, including yourself. “What?” you say. “All of them?” O.K., O.K. To make this easy, make it a list of those you want to deal with in particular, or those experiences that are hanging you up at this moment.
   Visualize that person and the most significant sexual encounter you had with them. Sexual healing is best performed in the nude, but this requirement is optional until you’re comfortable with the process. For help in spiritual nudity see “How to Make Nudity a Spiritual Experience.”
2. Sit upright in a chair, back straight or lie on the floor. Keep your eyes half closed. However you do it, get comfortable and relaxed, but maintain a quality of watchful awareness. The entire process should take as around fifteen minutes to half an hour.
   Inhale deeply, as though you were breathing through the opening in your genitals. Pull in your stomach, drawing the air up along the back of the spine to a point between the shoulder blades, holding it there briefly.
3. Bring the breath up the back of the head, over the crown and finally down to a point between the eyebrows. Imagination and visualization play an important role in use of the breath as a sexual healer.
   After holding the breath between the eyebrows briefly, release it slowly though the nose, mentally guiding it down the front of the body and back into the genitals where it began.
4. Imagine your genital opening to be like a nostril, inhaling the cleansed energy as you begin the cycle again. Contracting the muscles in the pelvis floor or perineum on the in-breath greatly increases the power of the healing. Relax the muscles slowly as the breath travels again up the spine.
5. While doing the breathing, visualize the person or sexual experience you are healing. Imagine fibers of light radiating from your abdomen, that area just north of your sexual zone. Imagine these fibers or searchlights extending across time and space like wireless Internet connections making contact with past lovers and experiences.
6. Repeat the breathing exercise at least five times, concentrating on the particular person or experience, not judging or evaluating it. Just the facts, as they used to say in “Dragnet.”
   At the conclusion of the steps, exhale forcefully and loudly through the mouth, expelling the demons of past pain, the ghosts of broken hearts and the incubi of destructive behaviors. Withdraw the fibers into your navel. Log off.
7. The important point is to re-experience the person or sexual event as vividly as possible while following the steps. This is not a surgical procedure guaranteed to replace the emotional valves of the heart. It is, however, valuable in releasing sexual weights that
   tether us to the gravity of pain.
   And who knows? If you breathe and visualize with enough desire for new sexual horizons, you might just float there, freed of the need to follow old flight patterns. Happy landing! Thanks for flying eHow.