How To Do Just About Everything
By parvenue
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Everything seemed to be perfect. At last you found that ying for your yang, your other self, your split apart. But then, almost as if the carpet were pulled from beneath your feet, there you are with your proverbial heart in your hands. You seem to be sobbing uncontrollably and almost anything can set you off, a card commercial, walking by other couples hand in hand, or even frequenting your favorite haunts. My handy dandy method will have you right as rain in no time and on that road to sure-fire recovery.
First, take a deep breath and get rid of all your lover's things, be it cards, toothbrushes, cotton panties, whatever you have that reminds you of them must go. If it's jewelry, sell it, or give it away. If there are pictures, burn them. If it's more substantial, like a car, you can always trade it in (to whatever your new lover is driving). The important thing is to try and erase their memory from your immediate presence.
If you got the apartment you live in together, think of moving...or at the very least changing the energy by painting the place. Not only will a new bright color help you, but the act of painting is extremely therapeutic.
Talk talk talk about it with your friends - family, people who love you. Get all the negative energy out of your system. And when you no longer can breathe, or have a voice left, make a mental picture of all that had gone on, and put it into a box and store it in that attic/deep recesses of your mind. Do not go back into that proverbial room. Lock it away and picture yourself mentally climbing down from that attic, or up from that imaginary room and move away. If you catch yourself dwelling, remember the room in the attic/cellar and do that mental walk away.
Buy yourself a pad, or a notbook, or a journal and begin writing out lists of where you see yourself going. Make a plan for the future. Learn something new like sky-diving or bicycling, or line dancing. You need to move away from the sadness. Sitting in a dark house recounting your joys and sorrows is liable to lead you to a bad place quickly and it will get you nowhere, it will just bring you down and bum you out.
Get outside in the fresh air, even if it means taking a walk or jogging. Exercise will help your spirits. Keep yourself active and busy. Stay away from a new relationship. You need to take at least six months off. You need time for yourself to explore. The last thing you need is a series of meaningless one night stands that lead you nowhere. Beware of the bottom feeders. They prey on the ercently been dumped and there's nothing worse than finding you've picked up something you can't put down (aka std's).
Remember you are important. You need to rebuild your self esteem. Surround yourself with life affirming positive people, places and things, and in time you will find that perhaps life without this person is the best life there is. Some people just aren't meant to be together. To love oneself is the beginning of a life long romance.
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cyra said
on 6/29/2008 Thanks for your positive article . I was feling very raw and souless but now I feel I can move forward.My ex did not even bother to call me and still has alot of my stuff I want it back but c'est la vie
vikki9 said
on 5/28/2008 Great article - good advice, pleasingly presented. Thank you. (Take a look at my articles for a Feng Shui twist on breaking up, and the master bedroom - several parallels.)
Nakia2007 said
on 11/3/2007 This is an awesome article. We've all been there, thanks for putting what we should already know in black and white. It helps to use logic like this when you're overcome with emotion. Great job : )