How to Be a Successful Single Woman

Accept your status. At the moment, you are a single woman. Whether that is by your choice or not, that’s your current status, and that isn’t a negative. Your situation may or might not change. The reality is there are more women than men (in the United States). Many men, when selecting a partner, choose someone much younger than themselves. The older a woman gets, the less likely she is to find a partner.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

Things You’ll Need:

• A new outlook-perhaps

1. Consider why it’s good to be single. You have no one telling you what to do! You can follow your own bliss. Partnering with any other person requires give and take. When raising children, having or finding a partner may be quite important. Today, in the United States, there are more single adults than married ones. Without children, being single can be extremely liberating.
2. Fear and loneliness used to drive women, especially, to accept a less than good marriage. Being single today is very acceptable. The host or hostess of a dinner party may find a more interesting mix by having single people at the table. The writer has been single for 13 years and has a network of friends much stronger and larger than when she was married.
3. Develop relationships of all kinds with both men and women. As a free agent, your relationships don’t have to adhere to old standards, but they should always bring something good to your life. They should never be guilt based or brought about as a result of obligation. The progression may not follow the old pattern: meet; date; (break up) or commit; live together or get married. You could be friends forever!
4. Drop the old idea that a single woman is one who can’t get a man! Don’t ever stay in a relationship out of fear of being alone. Being alone isn’t the same as being lonely. One dating rule to follow is, ask yourself, before going out, am I looking forward to seeing this person? If so, terrific, go and enjoy. If not, well, think about it. Is it perhaps that I’m trying to prove something, like that I can “get” a man? Get over it. Any woman can “get” a man. It just depends on how low she's willing to set the bar.

Tips & Warnings

• Have positive relationships in your life.
• Do no harm.
• Drop people from your life who are critical, who put you down, or make you feel bad.
• Have the best possible life you can by doing things that create positive energy. Develop relationships that make you smile, laugh out loud, and that make you want to be a better, more giving person.
• Develop self-confidence by taking charge of your own life.