How to be the Man the Family Needs

Being the head of the household isn't easy, but it doesn't have to be filled with strife and confusion all of the time.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Things You’ll Need:

• A mirror
• A quiet place
• A willing Heart
• An open mind

1. SELF REFLECTION
   Recognize that as the man, the direction of the family rests on your shoulders. Have you accepted this responsibility, what has been the outcome? Look at yourself and honestly evaluate your priorities when it comes to loving your family. Don't criticize yourself for your mistakes, just understand what you have done, have not done, and should do.
2. EVALUATE
   Look at the road your family is currently on. Ask yourself a series of questions. What can I do to change the nature of how I have been leading this family. Evaluate the things you have done in the past and its effectiveness
3. RESPONSIBILITY
   Know that whatever direction your family is headed, it is your fault. Taking responsibility for where you are helps you take responsibility for where it can go. We all play a part so don't look at yourself as the victim or the innocent one.
4. PRIORITY
   Is loving your family the top priority? How do you love them? How haven't you been showing your love for them? Do you really love them. Answering these questions will help give direction in how you can move forward toward putting family first.
5. DIGGING DEEP
   As the man and the head of the household, it is your responsibility to create an atmosphere that allows love, nurturing, and growth to take place. Is this happening in your home, how do you allow it to? Being the man means that you are the first to make sacrifices, it isn't about always getting what you give out and wanting something back. It's about giving out when you don't feel it coming back, loving your family when they don't want to be loved, being the leader and giving direction when they don't want to be led.
6. CHANGE & ADAPT
   You have to be willing to change and adapt to new situations and circumstances. You have to be willing to allow yourself the freedom to grow as everyone around you grow. You also have to let your defenses down and let your family love you, and accept their love.
7. COMMITMENT
   The biggest part of being a man and leading the family is making a commitment not just to your family, but to yourself, to your family and friends, and to God. Allow others hold you accountable (those that you intimately trust)so that you can be reminded of your commitment, and move ever forward.

Tips & Warnings

• Results are not typical. This how to is meant to simply stimulate the mind and offer alternative possibilities.