How To Do Just About Everything
By parvenue
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Recently I was at a horse race, "The Hunt" at Far Hills, NJ. It was a charitable event to benefit the Cancer Ward of the local Medical Center. I'd been invited by the sister of a friend. While I was there I bumped into the hostess' husband John, whom I'd met at several "functions" before. He flat out told me that he didn't remember me at all. I reminded him of the conversations we'd had in the past and he said, "You're just not that memorable. You're ordinary and you sort of blend in." Then he compared me to a bad job he'd done in construction. He said, "And I never remember a bad job that I had to work on either." Well, I must tell you reader that this isn't the usual case concerning yours truly, but it made me think about the topic and so travel with me if you will so that we can explore together the ways to be remembered at a party or other function.
You're at the party. Be wearing a little better than everyone else. Remember that appearance will make the first impression and you only getr one shot. So, if at all possible try to look as good as you can.
When meeting people, be certain to remember their names. And when they ask you a question, repeat their name back to them. People love to hear their own name. And it will impress them that you've remembered them, especially if you get called away and then come back to them and remember who and what they do/are/etc. Make a coat rack in your mind and hook details on it..like, exotic belly dancer, huband hal, has three children and one chicken...
Be a good listener. Even if the man you're talking to has the conversational ability of an eel. If you stay focused on him and what he's saying, he will remember you. And if he doesn't...at least someone will.
Try to get involved in the conversation. If you know anything about the topic at all, try and play the devil's advocate..for example, if they prefer the hand blower type towel dryers in restrooms as opposed to paper towels, you be the person who doesn't wash your hands at all! Then ask them if they want you to get them some treats from the buffet, and be sure they see you putting your hands all over them. They will not forget you.
Pay a compliment to the person. Mention how you love something they are wearing or the color of their eyes, or their voice, or the fact that they don't smell as bad as everyone else. People tend to remember people who pay them compliments. Not only that, they tend to like to have you around.
Be upbeat and fun. Be the first person to dive into the pool, or pull someone out on the dance floor to dance. Be pro-active. Be fun! You will be remembered! And people will tend to put you on their guest lists and you'll have more parties than you can handle!
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cherry67 said
on 9/29/2008 I totaly agree!!!