How to Keep the Memory of a Loved One Alive

I am a widow. I lost my husband of 34 years over two years ago. My husband was my best friend, he was my high school sweetheart, he was the love of my life, and I was devastated by his death. But, I have found ways to keep his memory alive; not just for me but for my daughter and my granddaughter. He may not be with me physically but I know that his loving presence will be with me always. Even though our loved ones have crossed over I think that it is important to keep their memories alive. There are simple ways of keeping their spirits alive in your heart and I’d like to share those with you.

Instructions

Difficulty: Easy

1. Obviously, photos of your life together are one way to keep their memory alive. My husband enjoyed cooking so there on my kitchen counter is a small picture of him in our kitchen cooking. His smile greets me every morning!
2. We enjoyed going out to lunch together; now whenever we dine out we always begin our lunch with a toast, “Here’s to Dad!” Somehow, doing that simple toast makes him part of our lunch. We like to let him know that he has not been forgotten.
3. Sadly, there are the trips to the cemetery. Strangely, it is here that I least feel his presence. In fact, I don’t feel him there at all. But, then again, the trips to the cemetery are to honor him and our life together. Honoring him comforts me; so the visits are more for me than they are for him. I love to bring a rose and place it on his grave. Sometimes I bring a cigar; he enjoyed having an occasional cigar. These small gestures keep his memory alive in my heart and this is one simple way that I can honor his memory.
4. Communication is another way to keep their memory alive in your heart. Realize that they are no longer present in their physical bodies but that they do exist spiritually. And, because their spirits are alive you can still communicate with them. You can speak to them and be open to receiving signs from them. The signs that you will receive are called after death communications or ADC’s. (There are numerous books written on the subject of ADC’s.) Throughout the years following my husband’s death I have received many ADC’s. They come to me in many ways – a grandmother clock that suddenly keeps perfect time, a small paper heart suddenly appearing on the carpet, the inability to turn off the stove (igniters keep igniting), lights going off and then on, finding feathers, and even heartfelt songs on the radio. You have to be open to watching and listening for ADC’s; believe me they are there.

Tips & Warnings

• There are many people who would disagree with me. There are many people who feel that we must move on after the death of a loved one and that keeping their memory alive only prolongs the pain. I have found that my cherished memories are what keep me going. I feel that it is healthy to keep his memory alive in my heart. He was and still is a part of my life. He is the past, he is spiritually with me in the present, and he will continue to be spiritually present with me in the future.