How to Overcome Wedding Jitters

Talk with a close friend to calm your wedding day jitters.

The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines jitters as "a state of extreme nervousness." Having wedding jitters is common for brides and grooms everywhere and it is completely normal. Because committing to another person for a lifetime can seem like a daunting prospect, brides and grooms can quickly feel overwhelmed and start having second thoughts. Whether you dislike being the center of attention or obsessively worry about how the wedding will turn out, combat these feelings by employing a few simple reflective and relaxing techniques to calm your nerves.

Things You'll Need

• Pen
• Paper
• Photos
• Music

Instructions

1. Reflect on your fiancee and think of all the reasons you love and admire him whenever you feel anxious about your wedding decision. Write a list or even a love letter stating all his positive traits and reasons that you want to spend the rest of your life with him. Look at favorite photos and home videos to relive your journey so far with your soon-to-be spouse and remember all the memories you shared.

2. Listen to calming music whenever you get jitters regarding your upcoming wedding day. Bring a portable music player with you to the wedding location to play right before the wedding starts to help calm your nerves.

3. Talk to close friends and family in regard to your wedding jitters and get their opinions and thoughts on the compatibility of you and your partner. Ask them to be honest in their advice and use this feedback to reaffirm your decision to get married. Speak with newlyweds as well as long-time married couples to bring perspective to the challenges of married life.

4. Engage in relaxing activities to calm your nerves and re-energize your body before your wedding day. Meditate and learn body-calming techniques, such as slow breathing and yoga stretches to calm your jitters. Remove yourself from the wedding bustle for a day or even a weekend and enjoy time at the spa, receiving massages, mud baths and other pampering treatments.

5. Realize that everything will not be perfect on your wedding day. Brides especially fret over every last detail regarding the wedding and come unglued at the first sign of disaster. Delegate members of your bridal with the authority to discreetly avert and correct any minor wedding day mishaps and request that they only ask for your help if there is a major problem. This will help ease your mind so you can relax and enjoy your wedding day, knowing everything is being handled and under control.

References

• The Knot: Engagement Issues: Dealing with Cold Feet
• Brides; Bridal Butterflies; Gwenda Blair
• Merriam Webster: Jitters