Many a men want to know how to approach women without fear, but very few decide to get to that point... most decide that you need to be born with it, but I'm here to give you an alternative.
First make an assessment. Determine exactly which girls you have a fear of approaching in what kinds of situations. Do you have fear approaching "10s" in bars, but not so much "7s" in the gym.
Simply sort out all the types of girls in all the types of situations you could meet them, and sort out all of these combinations on a table where you sort them by difficulty.
For example, you might have "approaching a cute girl in the store" on the top of your list (in difficulty), and then "talking to modest-looking older women who aren't my type at work meetings"... as the thing at the bottom.
Step2
Identify the thing that you fell "I wouldn't feel too comfortable doing it, but if I had to... I'd probably be barely able to pull it off"
For some guys this could be walking up a hot girl in the mall and saying a conversation starter (a piece of content meant to provoke small talk with someone), for others this can barely be just going out and barely being able to ask an old grandma for the time... And then for some others it's being able to approach hot women in the club in a very direct manner, without a "conversation starter".
*whichever level you're at is fine, as long as you begin somewhere.
Step3
Go out with the intent of talking to women in the category of women you can "barely, but if I had to"... talk to. Then find one of the conversation starters available in the resources (again sort them by difficulty), and then use those conversation starters on these women. Go out and do this until being able to start a conversation with these women becomes so effortless that it's at the same level of comfort like calling up your body to ask him something.
Step4
Once you have become comfortable with a certain level, go to the next level. Either go to a harder type of women to talk to, or try using a harder conversation starter.
Step5
Do this until you have absolutely no fear in approaching ANY girl anywhere.
Tips & Warnings
This process might seem simplistic to you. But this really is the only scientifically proven manner of de-sentizing yourself to any fear.
It's simple, but it's not easy. You will feel a bit challenged at some points and feel like giving up, but stick to it. There are no magical pills, and this is the closest thing to one.
on 2/9/2008
Moreover than above mentioned points the guy should not be curious or anxious about her reply and next step. What I meant to say is "take it easy!":-)
on 2/9/2008
Moreover than above mentioned points the guy should not be curious or anxious about her reply and next step. What I meant to say is "take it easy!":-)
Comments
mrsarath83 said
on 2/9/2008 Moreover than above mentioned points the guy should not be curious or anxious about her reply and next step. What I meant to say is "take it easy!":-)
mrsarath83 said
on 2/9/2008 Moreover than above mentioned points the guy should not be curious or anxious about her reply and next step. What I meant to say is "take it easy!":-)
merrily1941 said
on 1/19/2008 Do not try to date a girl, whom I consider about ten years old. Go for an adult woman.