Things You'll Need:
- time
- the right information & secrets
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Step 1
First make an assessment. Determine exactly which girls you have a fear of approaching in what kinds of situations. The quiz I mention at the bottom might help you out.
Do you have fear approaching "Super-attractive girls" in bars, but not so much "Average girls" in the gym?
Simply sort out all the types of girls in all the types of situations you could meet them, and sort out all of these combination on a table where you sort them by difficulty.
For example, you might have "approaching a cute girl in the store" on the top of your list (in difficulty), and then "talking to modest-looking older women who aren't my type at work meetings"... as the thing at the bottom. -
Step 2
Identify the thing that you fell "I wouldn't feel too comfortable doing it, but if I had to... I'd probably be barely able to pull it off"
For some guys this could be walking up a hot girl in the mall and saying a conversation starter (a piece of content meant to provoke small talk with someone), for others this can barely be just going out and barely being able to ask an old grandma for the time... And then for some others it's being able to approach hot women in the club in a very direct manner, without a "conversation starter".
*whichever level you're at is fine, as long as you begin somewhere. -
Step 3
Go out with the intent of talking to women in the category of women you can "barely, but if I had to"... talk to. Then find one of the conversation starters available in the resources (again sort them by difficulty), and then use those conversation starters on these women. Go out and do this until being able to start a conversation with these women becomes so effortless that it's at the same level of comfort like calling up your body to ask him something.
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Step 4
Once you have become comfortable with a certain level, go to the next level. Either go to a harder type of women to talk to, or try using a harder conversation starter.
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Step 5
Do this until you have absolutely no fear in approaching ANY girl anywhere.
Comments
showpup said
on 11/5/2008 I'm so glad men like you are there to give other guys this sort of advice and I hope they are all out there paying attention because you're right! 5 stars
HowToDating said
on 10/17/2008 Sum guysaid: ""You could have summarized your entire article by simply saying "feel the fear and do it anyway" - but good try. ""
True, but the trouble is that guys make things harder for themselves then they have to be. If you tell them "just feel the fear and do it anyway", what they do is go ahead and keep trying to the scariest possible approach possible (and failing).
Instead of breaking it down into steps and realizing you have to start from a "lower" level. It's about the progressive aspect.
justsumguy said
on 10/17/2008 I wish I could call up my body, but he doesn't have a cell phone. hahaha...okay, enough mileage out of that one. You could have summarized your entire article by simply saying "feel the fear and do it anyway" - but good try.
mrsarath83 said
on 2/9/2008 Moreover than above mentioned points the guy should not be curious or anxious about her reply and next step. What I meant to say is "take it easy!":-)
mrsarath83 said
on 2/9/2008 Moreover than above mentioned points the guy should not be curious or anxious about her reply and next step. What I meant to say is "take it easy!":-)