How to Be a Good Wife to a Moody and Difficult Husband

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Being a good and virtuous wife is not always an easy task and especially when you have a husband like Archie Bunker; moody and difficult and maybe even appearing to be a male chauvinist many times. Yet, you love him dearly even though he wears on your patience.

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Instructions

Difficulty: Challenging

Step1

Learn to stay calm and maintain your own joy. When your husband is upset, moody and fussy, it is important to realize how important it is to remain calm. A wife has the power to set the atmosphere of the home. Besides, it takes two to argue. If one remains calm, the storm will soon subside.

Step2

Understand your husband's needs. Learn to read through the lines. Unfortunately, people don't always know how to communicate their feelings. He may be in need of a little affection. If not, then give him the space he needs to work through his frustrations.

Step3

Make sure that your house is in order. When he sees that you care and desires to make him happy; because he truly loves you, in due time, he will begin working on himself.

Step4

Maintain a sweet spirit. Set your mind to be a happy and joy filled wife. There's no need for you to become moody too. Your good disposition can help to encourage him to make better choices to be a happier person. Most moody people really want to be happier people, but are struggling with it. Everyone struggles with something. If you sincerely love your husband and you can deal with his moodiness, then your ability to keep a good disposition will help him as well as be a plus for your marriage.

Step5

Read up on books about relationships and about men. The more you understand your husband, the better you can communicate and relate to him.

Step6

Always be willing to make sacrifices for your mate. We all wish that relationships and people were perfect. Unfortunately, they are not and sometimes you have to give love and patience first before you get it back. This can be hard for many because most people these days do not believe in longsuffering and making sacrifices for others. Sometimes, good gifts arrive in burlap packages. Your husband may be a diamond in the rough.

Step7

Pray and depend on God and His power to give you the grace and strength to accomplish your assignment to your husband.

Tips & Warnings

Don't become quickly and easily offended
Don't become selfish
Don't allow anyone to steal your joy

Comments

sneezy7231969 said

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on 9/23/2008 I just think that all of you missed the whole picture here. I have a very moody husband. We have been married for 20 yrs. We have three wonderful children and now an adorable grandson. If I hadn't learned, quickly, to keep my mouth shut at the approriate times, we wouldn't have made it this far. It isn't sexist nor is it being miserable. Its compromising. I have learned that when my husband gets in one of his moods, to either leave him alone or just give him a big hug and say "I Love you". Generally I give him a but hug. And what do I get in turn? Love and understanding when I am not in such a great mood. If you think about it, when you are feeling angry or just having a down day, what is it that you really want? You want someone to give you a hug and say "I understand". It dosen't make the problem go away. But it does make it a little more tolerable. Does it still seem a li

twinsplusone said

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on 8/31/2008 Why do we have to give in to men's self pity? Try to raise them up? What are they doing for us? They look at us and say - it's her time or she's in menopause. We need to be appreciated too. It all seems so one-sided. They can have the attitude and we have to put up with it, no less with a smile on our face? I say leave and let them realize what they have now lost. God did not put us here to be miserable, did he?

mollyinak said

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on 8/25/2008 oh my god. this is the most antiquated and sexist advice I've ever read! I kept scrolling to the top to see if it was written pre-1950s.

viviane said

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on 7/26/2008 Thank you for the advice. I am being going through some hard times. I just don't seem to understand him and why he is acting that way towards me.